New job stress part 2

[PenguinQueen44]

Continuance to my last post...I told my current boss that I got an offer to make passports for the government.

I would be getting $5 more an hour.

He said they would talk and try to keep me at my current job.

They counter offered with giving me a $1.50 raise per hour.

I felt so conflicted I called a family member and she told me straight that if they did not match the new salary...I should not stay.

I cried and thought I needed to stay....I did not want change. My anxiety and fear were taking over.

Somehow I turned on the logic and realized that I needed to do the new job.

I would save in gas and it paid better.

I went to my boss and confidently said that I was putting in my 2 week notice.

I was riding the adrenaline and told my coworkers that I was leaving.

On my drive home my anxiety was yelling at me. I had to call my family and have them talk me off the stress lane.

When I got home....my anxiety was awful..

I feel stupid and my mind will not calm.

My stomach was hungry because I had not eaten today.

I had burgers infront of me and I had to throw then out....I felt nauseas looking at them.

I just want my brain to settle...meditation is not helping.

I am so frustrated...I should be excited about a new job....all I have is fear!!!

Everyone else in my life is excited for me and I am just stressed.

[Dolphin14]

Hi

Look at all you accomplished today despite the fear. You spoke up for yourself, good job.

This is hard, anxiety and fear want to keep you where you are. Refresh my memory.... this job was also new?

It's going to be stress inducing but you've thought it through. You weighed the pros and cons and discussed it with others.

Buy yourself a new outfit for your first day on the job.

Keep us posted

🐬

[Shnookie in reply to Dolphin14]

Excellence advice my friend.

[PenguinQueen44 in reply to Dolphin14]

I have been at my current job for 1 year... I start the new job in 2 weeks.

[Dolphin14 in reply to PenguinQueen44]

One year is a good amount of time to be settled in but not so long that making a break isn't possible.

I'm excited for you. I understand how scary it is but I hope you settle in quickly

[cashew78]

When the pain of staying is greater than the pain of casting yourself into the unknown, then you know it's time to go. I've been in a similar situation and for months and even a full year after I felt I had made an irredeemable mistake by leaving my old job. Stress , anxiety attacks, needing to run and hide in any space private and available at my new job. Now a second year on I realize how horrible the place was and that the abuse and frustration was not worth the low pay. It wasn't about money, it was a dream job I was good at. It took a while, but it occured to me that the situation was like an abusive relationship; I do all the work, get dumped on and inferred that I'm just lazy, and make all the excuses why management was acting the way it did. And, for that first few months and year I kept think of going back when they probably never gave it a second thought. They just found new people to dump on.You did you're due diligence; you asked them your value and they came back with very little of a counteroffer. Despite everything, their skills and care over their employees is not your problem. They need to make that effort. Sadly, I suspect, they won't and it's the shame of the modern world. It's not always about the pay but the value that's placed on the workers. I should have left sooner. :/ Good luck; you got this.

[So_It_Goes in reply to cashew78]

I totally agree and have a similar experience—- if being there is doing more harm to you then the discomfort of starting a new job, it time to get out. I wish I would’ve been as brave as you were when I was in a similar position. Staying in a toxic workplace can cause so much damage. You deserve to go to work everyday confident and comfortable. You did the right thing for yourself and I’m really happy for you! Best of luck!!