Toxic job

[UkyoCoanccy]

I am just thinking, I have a toxic job. I work as supervisor of housekeeping in a Hotel.

It is very difficult to deal with my anxiety problems and my job problems.

I have different kind of supervisors that do not communicate well each other.

There is a competition among them for the position of Manager so is a war of wolves. Everyone of them tell me what to do, but everyone of them has different ideas and non of them approve the idea or decisions of the other.

So when that happens I go to consult with the main boss.

Sometimes the main boss tell me what to do when something similar happen again.

When that happen I do what I was told to do but then everything changes because the main boss come to tell me a different thing to do.

Then I do what she said and when something similar happen again in another day, the drama with the wolves start again and after that I do what the main boss told me the last time and just to be sure I consult with her again.

Sometimes she agrees with me and another days she change again her decisions.

I do not have an example right now because I am completely tired and frustrated. I just got out of my job right know, but I could not deal with my stress so I tried to share how do I feel in this moment.

Sorry

I am not good in my English.

But I hope some of you understand what I want to say.

[alfreddy7]

Hello Ukyo.

I understand where you are coming from. My mother used to do housekeeping as well for a hotel. And she will tell me all similar stories. I couldn’t help her but to tell her just get a different job. I know it’s hard to find one nowadays but you just have to relax and hang on to your job meanwhile look for something better.

If you are relying to much on your job maybe you can just talk things over with your boss and co l-workers.

Other than that don’t let them get to your head. I worked in a similar environment. But what kept me going is that I thought to myself at the end of the day I get to home 🏡 and try to fix it the next day. Nothing will keep you from getting home and relaxing.

[Gentlespirit]

You spoke well and made your point with how stressful your job is and how frustrating it can be. Be patient and kind to yourself. Do a little something that you would like to do. Also is it possible to transfer to a different department where the stress may be less or a different location?

[UkyoCoanccy in reply to Gentlespirit]

There is no other department for me. I think that the worst of this situation is that I need to this job. There is no jobs and I do not have any higher education to change for a better job.

I am scared of do something wrong for cause of them because I do not want to lose my job.

I keep telling myself "I am lucky. I have a job when many others do not. What will happen to me and my kid if I quit or if I get fired? So, I must be happy and keep going."

When I think of that, it helps a little bit, but later I feel a huge frustration and I want to cry because everyday is the same thing in my job and in my mind.

I am still trying to look for another job, but it is difficult to find something that at least pay me enough to survive.

I would like to find a fast cure for this feelings.

[Gentlespirit in reply to UkyoCoanccy]

Is there a fast cure?? Sometimes what we are feeling can motivate ourself to think of the present and future. To ask ourselves what can i do?? My mother went back to school when she was in her 30s or close to 40 and i remember thinking education must be important because shes going back. Maybe google some trade school and other schools and programs to see what may interest you. Online learning is more acceptable and as long as the school is accredited maybe thats an option to consider. ? What are other things that can help? Reading to and with my kids helped. Doing more activities together can help boost your mood and outlook on life yet also take care of yourself from within. I have a recipe for homemade playdoh if you like otherwise even just playing a game together with your child will help both of you. Go fish Rummy Sorry Slap Jack Crazy eights. These memories will be cherished by both of you and your best stress reliever is with you at home. Love gives strength . I'm feeling your frustration and the sense of being trapped. Think in and outside the box. My grandma used to say things could be better yet they could be worse. I wish you well. Make memories with your child and do whatever else you think is best for both of you. Take care

[UkyoCoanccy in reply to Gentlespirit]

A recipe for playdough? Can you share it with me. My kid and I like to play with things like that. Also about my education: I try to get my GED. I am trying to study online but I do not do it so often.

Since 1 year ago until now I tend to forget things, many things. So I read over and over just to understand what am I reading. Then after some days I realize that I could not learn the subject so I start again or I just quit for some days.

But that is my purpose.

Thank you

[Gentlespirit in reply to UkyoCoanccy]

3 and a half cups of flour. 1 cup of salt . A few drops of food coloring Or 1 package of Koolaid. 1 cup of water. Stir everything in a bowl. Play with it. Put it in a plastic container or ziploc bag when done. Have your child help save different size lids to use as tools for the playdoh and an empty toilet paper roll or empty paper towel roll makes a good rolling pin. Otherwise the Dollar store has molds and shapes you can use for playdoh for $1. Have you checked out your local library because the library has books to help you study for your G.E.D. Also community colleges or your community resource center should have free G.E.D. classes. Just a suggestion while your looking at the library for G.E.D. books or asking the librarian to order you some from another library your child can pick out a few books to read. Do you have a library card?

[UkyoCoanccy in reply to Gentlespirit]

YesI have a card.

But I have not gone since the pandemic began. I did not know that libraries have those books.

When I have my day off from my job I am going to check if it is still open.

I was thinking that maybe it was still close. I will check.

Thank you for the recipe.

I will try.

🙂