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[LOTR2017]

Hi, I am a 38 year old and had been married almost 13 years and with one kid who is 7 years old. My husband recently let me know he was unhappy in our marriage. He had recently relapsed back into alcohol and I knew that it was not going to end well, I just did not know he was going to give up on our marriage after everything we had been through. I am trying to get through the days. He moved out, and now lives in a RV park. He is a great dad and I miss him every day. Just struggling with my anxiety with all the unknowns. I was not prepared for any of this...

[Idont_]

I hope u and ur child get through this happy and healthy

[LOTR2017 in reply to Idont_]

Thank you, ultimately, I do know that I will get through this. I have decided I may not be happy for a long time and honestly I may not be dealing with it the most healthily. I have opted for more shopping. Just trying to find my new normal and not trying to text or call the person who hurt me the most has been the most difficult.

[Idont_ in reply to LOTR2017]

Spend time with ur kid, doing things they’d like. This could help ur kid through this period too

Stay strong

[HisChild4ever]

I am very sorry!

There is a 12-step program called Celebrate Recovery, and you can find out where they have meetings in your area on their website.

But in their meetings, I had chances to talk about me, and also gathering with others made me feel less alone.

Or maybe meeting with a counselor would be helpful for you.

I just want to recommend taking care of yourself as necessary. You are important and you matter a lot.

May God help you with everything!

[LOTR2017 in reply to HisChild4ever]

Thank you, I do have a therapist, and I found an online Al-anon group to be a part of now that hopefully I will be able to be a part of Friday. I know I am trying but today is my anniversary of my marriage and there is a need to talk but not with people that know me...sadly.

[Agora1]

LOTR2017...I am so sorry in what you are going through right now and how devastating

it must feel. There is a group called Al-anon.org that caters to the families

affected by someone's drinking addiction. A great 12 step program. We will support

you as well through your emotional feelings in feeling lost and alone.

We are here for you. xx

[LOTR2017 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you! Yes I went online and saw they have some that I can join virtually! We will see how that goes.

[HisChild4ever]

That's very good! I believe that you are taking very good steps. I'm sorry about the pain and the sadness. It's understandable and not easy. If there's something you like/enjoy (maybe going to the movies), I hope that you do it. Maybe it can be very hard to distract ourselves when a meaningful and important relationship has ended. I don't believe that there's a fast cure for a heart that's hurting. But I'm wishing you the best. You can write here. I hope you give yourself a lot of love.