I am feeling so stuck and a burden to others.

[Believeinyourself123]

I am trying but I just feel like the world is not for me. I havent been myself in a long time and I am just tired of reaching out to others and then either not hearing back from them or they just do not understand. I am appreciative of the few that have supported me especially on here but I just dont know. My Mom said to me yesterday when I needed her to take me to my Dr appt but you look really good you lost weight. Thats not my issue my issue is my mind and I started crying. I feel that is the only time she comments or gives me praise is if I look good. I have been at the top of my game health and fitness wise years ago and at the same time suicidal. I just dont know and who I can really turn to all that I seem to hear is from others besides ignoring me is that Ill contact you later but they never do. I get it I am a failure but if someone needed me I would be there for them.

[BlueAgave]

None of this is your fault, you're not a failure. ❤️

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to BlueAgave]

Thank you. I hope you are doing well. Hugs

[funnychocolate in reply to Believeinyourself123]

I'm on your side and would love to be your friend

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to funnychocolate]

Thank you and I could always use and need a friend. Take care!

[funnychocolate in reply to Believeinyourself123]

thanks, I'm always here

[012703060610]

Oh I love the good old fashioned "I'll get back to you." I am dealing with the same thing and it is very hurtful. This has led to further depression and want to self isolate because everyone in my life just abandoned me when I got divorced. It was like I was contagious. Now I am terminally ill and still NO ONE checks in. The problem is not you, it is them. It has taken me a four year journey to realize that you need just a few people on your side in this life and to cherish those people. I went on a toxic friend break up journey. Not intentional but if I did hear from someone. For example, I get a generic Happy Birthday text from someone I have known for 20 years. I was there for her last Christmas when her father passed away. She texted and asked for an update on my health, which I gave her but still wanted to know how she and her family were doing. Then she never texted back. I feel like I've already died in their minds. Every day remind yourself things are most likely on others than you. You can control your own actions. You sound warm hearted. I totally understand the commentary on the parental side. I had been so sick I barely weighed anything. Finally found the right medication for some GI issues and I put weight back on. I am a little heavier than I normally would be, but still in my BMI zone. I think this is a huge win as I am mostly bed ridden. I see my parents and my Mom says I'm fat. Now she is end stage Parkinsons and I need to not take offense. Yet when it comes to our parents, it seems so hard not to listen and soak up every word they say. Hang in there. You will be heavily supported on this site!

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to 012703060610]

Oh my goodness my heart goes out to you and thank your for sharing your story to me. I am to blame though because I do tend to push others away and go silent but its not intentional and a good freind that truly understands will still reach out to me. Thank you kindly for all of your words of encouragement and I love this site although I have been on here for years I am not active daily, There truly are soooo many loving and caring people on here. But thank you for replying to me. It means more than you know.

[012703060610 in reply to Believeinyourself123]

I literally just returned to this site a few days ago. Sometimes it's good on here and sometimes it can be too much! Gotta manage the anxiety.

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to 012703060610]

I 100 percent understand and I have felt like this at times too. Anxiety is terrible to suffer with. I hope you are feeling better. Thank you again for your kind reply. It does mean a lot to me.

[funnychocolate]

Trut me I feel yo pain and frustration and i'm 76

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to funnychocolate]

Aw I am so sorry to hear this too. It saddens me to hear that anyne else deals with this like me. Big hugs and I hope you take care. I am here if you need anything or an ear to bend.

[Gramas]

I know exactly how you feel. People says “let’s stay in touch, let’s get together” but then I never hear from them again. However they do eventually get in touch when they have a whole litany of problems of their own to tell me. I’m the type that listens and never burdens others with my problems but they have no problem reciting every detail of theirs. That’s why I love this site, because people really listen and do what they can to help.

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to Gramas]

I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm a firm believer that words without actions are pointless. Not that I'm that great but I do care a lot about others and I want to help. It just sucks when it's not returned. My pride gets me at times to reach out for help. I think that's due to my childhood and throughout my life of feeling like they won't listen or why even bother when it will be no anyways. I think you also brought up a good point though that they do eventually reach out when there life is in disarray. I'm the same as you I listen and care.

Im always here for you if you need an ear. I have met a lot of very kind individuals over the years on here. They have been there for me when I felt lost frustrated sad. I just wish I had more support in my daily life in general. I just have a lot to work on. One day at a time.

[Gramas in reply to Believeinyourself123]

I am sorry you go through the same things as I do. I have always been the one people come to for support or when they need something but get nothing in return. They say “I’m here for you” but their actions never carry that out. The thing is how do you chance this dynamic and not feel so used?

This forum is great and the people are so helpful. I’m here for you as well, feel free to reach out.

[Midori]

Some fplk have fallen for the hype that Looking good equates to health, when in reality, it doesn't. Trust your doctor.

Cheers, Midori

[Williams3lw]

Hi hope you are doing well I'm here if you need a ear. You are loved by me your group family.