Alone among people

[ItsAsma]

I always feel alone even among people. I have the constant feeling that no one really cares about how I am and what I do. Talking about it makes me feel guilty or makes me fear that I might push away the few people around me; Furthermore, I don't understand why they stay with me since I often perceive myself as useless. Is there anyone who can understand me and give me some advice or even just a little comfort? Thank you.

[GrillMan]

I struggle with the very same negative thoughts and am afraid to share how I really feel. But the reality is that people do care, and they won't run away. I am learning to question my negative thinking, and try to treat myself like a friend. It takes courage to open up to people around you, and I think you can do anything you put your mind to. I'm glad to listen if you want to vent.

[littlefightingfish]

i can totally feel you, ItsAsma . Im exactly the same, I cant relate to people and they cant relate to me. I can never initiate a conversation especially to strangers. I wonder sometimes if it has anything to do with me being an INFJ personality (rarest in the planet, from what Ive been told) or me just being hypersensitive and highly introverted. I would usually just keep to myself or retreat to a corner on social events.

I have next to zero social battery and find I cant carry a simple conversation, and have no energy for superficial small talk. I long for deeper conversations and sincere connections, not shallow interactions. You can imagine how all this will lead to having no friends. The only people I find easy to talk to and can relate to me are immediate family and the closest cousins. Do you have family close by at least you can always see, and reach out to? I hope you do. 🙏🏻

Slowly digging in and understanding myself more and more has helped me a little so far. It’s leading me to accept myself better, stop beating myself so much, stop comparing myself to outgoing life-of-the-party extroverts that seem to have all the fun, and set limits true to my nature. And slowly be okay with myself.

If you think you could be highly introverted like me too, when you have the chance, try reading the book by Susan Cain:

“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking”

It has really helped me feel better especially on bad days.

Hugs to you! 🌈 Know youre not alone in that struggle.

[Suz0401]

I understand you very much. I feel like I am just existing. I really wouldn’t wish this feeling on anyone so u am saddened to know you feel this way.

[CLB1125]

while I can’t give you any advice I can relate with what you’re feeling. I feel like I don’t belong, even when I’m with my family. You’re always thinking why did I say that? Don’t feel alone. I think most of us who struggle with mental illness feel isolated. We just don’t feel like we fit in. That’s why we come here to be with people who “get us”!

[Bear2024]

I know exactly how you feel, I felt the same way and still do sometimes but I know I’m getting better at interacting and learning to trust/socialize/ have a connection with my fellow man, in my experience I took part in exposure therapy when it comes to meeting people, I would force myself to talk to get out and be in public and make an effort to initiate some kind of small talk or give someone a compliment, no matter how low my social battery was or how frustrated or anxious or akward or tired I was feeling that day and how weird or awkward I might have looked and I’m slowly getting better at it and feeling better interacting with people, hope this helped.

[Lonely2023]

I feel the same way a lot! But it isn’t true. We’re here for you. This is a great group!!

[ItsAsma]

Thank you all so much, each in their own way and courageously sharing their experience has given me a little more strength. I am grateful for having found this group and you, the fantastic people, who are part of it because I hope to feel, and I already feel a little, less alone. Thank you with all my heart.

[Vasiliki99]

thats true