One Sided Love

[OneSidedLover]

Hi everyone, there is this girl I like very much or I would say I love her. I first met her in college the moment I saw her I was amazed at first I thought it was just a crush and with time it would go but the opposite happened day by day I started liking her more and more and fell in love I don't know why because I have not intracted with her that much but there is something different about her which attracted me towrds her I want to ask her but after the class is over she was with some boy I thought he was her boyfriend so I do not dare to ask her and thought the friendship I had with her will also be ruined and doing this 2 years passed but I never told her and now we are in the last semester and finally I got the courage and told her, she rejected me saying I am inoccent and not her type, she wants to block me but I said I want to be her friend atleast and asked her if she liked someone or is in a relationship she said no to that also, so I thought maybe I get chance in future you know when in love you do not want to leave that person even if it hurts. so we talked daily and sometimes she also gave me hints this makes me happy so recently she started liking someone and her behaviour changed towards me till now I was just happily handling things but when she said she liked someone this broke my heart, that night I have not even slept a single second and you know what my biggest fear was to be very honest that what if she chooses the wrong boy or gets hurt, I do not want that to happen to her, so now she told me we will remain friends so this breaks my heart. now I am just living without feeling anything, to be honest just sad and empty still, I do not wanna give up on her. everybody told me to stop thinking of her and block her but I am so stupid that I do not even want to think about this, what should I do now?

[Agora1]

Hi OneSidedLover. Welcome to our community!

Love is a deep explosive feeling but if it's not felt by two people, it can hurt deeply.

Timing is everything in a relationship. You may be ready but it sounds like she is not.

That doesn't mean this feeling is forever. However, don't waste your life in waiting

for someone who is not available right now. Her decision to want to be with you

must come from her alone. If this is meant to be, it will happen down the road.

You will only know if she is the right person for you by experiencing more of what

life has planned for you. Never stop believing but also don't stop living.

I'm glad you are here with us at this time. We care xx

[OneSidedLover in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much for your time😊

[punkster]

I'm not sure how old you are, but you sound young. You need to know that there are many fish in the sea. You can't force someone to love you. I have a coworker who was married for 16 years and then divorced her husband because she never loved him. You need to do your best to stop obsessing on her. I know it's hard, but you need to do it. Stop going to places where you know you will see her. You sound like a very caring committed person, and you will find someone else.

[OneSidedLover in reply to punkster]

Thank you so much for your time😊

[MollyMarie]

I'm really old and have witnessed all types of relationships in my life. I feel your hurt because this person you want to care for you, just doesn't. Love is an interesting and confusing emotion, but really think about it, what do you truly know about this person that causes this love. People confuse lust with love most of the time. Lust can attract people to each other but actually knowing the person, their feelings about life, the world, their goals for their life, etc. is what is needed to truly "love". Just enjoying their looks, their presentation, their vibe can be mistaken for love. That's one of the reasons for the high divorce rate. Please advance past this and find someone who appreciates you and all the wonderful qualities you have, then have a wonderful future.