Good coping strategy

[MetalEnjoyer]

If you got any friends to talk too. Tell them how you feel if you're feeling terrible, depressed, or just not good. If they're good friends they will listen or just let you vent. No one cares about you actively complaining about your problems. Especially if they know you. I was having an emotional flashback when I went into work and complained about it. Talked about how I've been noticing them and identifying them easily. That got my thoughts off the stress and improved my day. I'm actually smiling for once because of that. 😀

[hypercat54]

Yes I do mainly agree but with a caveat of not venting a whole spiel of it which just overwhelms them. Its enough to say just a bit and that alone makes you feel better especially if someone gets it.

[MetalEnjoyer in reply to hypercat54]

We have a discord chat. We labeled a thread as the vent chat. Sometimes to also tell everyone how were doing. I don't usually just through it onto one person in the chat. I need time to tell them in that chat to possibly respond later and to also disrupt my thought pattern when I start feeling bad. I actually told them all how I have not been doing good. Then explained that I want a chat where we can do this because I'm learning no matter how I feel I need to say a lot. It helps too. Especially when its clear conscious and concise thought. Not like I use to be lol 😄. Before the only way I could communicate was literally to angerly complain about problems I can't control. Now I do that about problems I can control and thats with a lot in myself. My main idea was to escape that feeling of isolation because thats just trauma anxiety that doesn't exist in reality.

I feel it works well too. My friends have their own separate base chat for normal things like school.

I also do it because of perspective. Especially considering me and being blinded by hate.

[hypercat54 in reply to MetalEnjoyer]

That's good and sounds like a plan.

[MetalEnjoyer in reply to hypercat54]

I'll definitely take your advice though. After pouring my heart out to my friends and family though. Sometimes it's hard not to keep talking lol. It's so freeing. I feel like an endless war has ended and now I just need to deal with the aftermath. Bad habits, bad behavior, negative thinking, and just general emotional control. A goal is really nice when you have one. It feels like things will change.

I also think my friends appreciate me more since everyone is sorta realizing that we have all been so separated and that one of us quite literally was losing our minds from the isolation. Especially considering the past trauma. We're getting together on Sunday. It's actually given me a purpose in my friends group to bring everyone together.

[hypercat54 in reply to MetalEnjoyer]

You sound very sensible and are recognising your triggers and emotions. This is the way to start healing and I wish you very success on your journey.

Yes I know what you mean about talking in depth to those who can never understand and that can make you feel worse can't it. Better to test the waters first with a little bit and if they clearly don't understand or aren't interested then back off.

On the other hand you also meet some who also suffer and you can mutually support each other which is great.