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I have lost all control on how to cope with my issues. I dont even know where to begin. Everything just continues to pile on day after day. idk what to do.

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Garben

Do you have any type of support group? I’m terrible at coping, but my support system has made it easier.

Also, are you seeing any kind of doctor or therapist for your mental health?

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I have seen doctors on and off throughout the years. I've had good and bad support system. I use to know how to cope and control everything and I lost sight of it all. I'm looking into going back to a doctor I just don't want meds. my husband is amazing support its just hard to get him to understand things, he just one of those let it go and move on types.

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My boyfriend is a fixit guy so it’s REALLY difficult for him to deal with the fact that he can’t fix me right away. But he’s learned through the years that he just needs to be present in my low days.

I know meds suck. I HATE taking meds... they are the bane of my existence. But if I don’t take them, I will have a break down and I will suffer and those I love will suffer. The thing about meds is that sometimes you need them in order to get off them.

Yeah my husband is always doing whatever he can to help and I always tell him he can't fix everything that's broken. but he remains by my side and at my worst that's all I need is him to just be there. It effects us from time to time but he always reassures me , he isn't somewhere he doesn't wanna be. Hes here bcuz he wants to be. I just have to trust him and let myself be helped by him. I push him away bcuz I don't wanna hurt him. I use to do the meds thing years ago and it always made me worse. I smoke marijuana to be honest. That's all that I've found that helps with no side effects.

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I do the same thing, push people away because I don’t want them to worry or be hurt. That’s good that he continues to assure you that he’s there for you. Honestly, if you have found something you feel helps, by all means do it. As long as it isn’t self destructive!

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Yes I stopped the self destruction once I hit rock bottom and realized it did nothing for me. Its hard having others involved.

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Unfortunately, I have not stopped destructive behavior mostly because I don’t want to involve and hurt other people.

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I promise you whatever the behavior is that you are doing isn't worth it. I lost everything going down that road. I had nothing and no one , I had to pick myself back up all by myself. I almost lost my daughter due to it all. I had to admit I had a problem and let her go stay with her father till I fixed my life. in the process I ended up pregnant with another who's father isn't apart of her life at all. I fixed my life , met my husband and things came together. I still struggle but I feel better stopping the destruction . I still have destructive tendancies but instead of drugs and other things, I just get tattoos or piercings or dye my hair strange colors. Just be strong bcuz when it's all over yu will look back and laugh on it all.

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Usually I dye my hair or get piercings. But not always. I’m working on it.

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It takes time hunny.. I been down that road. worst time to make decisions is when your in a state of mania. irrational thinking is the worst.

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Preaching to the queen of irrational thinking! I’m working on myself. And I’m glad you have been able to get through your darkest time <3

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That makes 2 queens lol its hard go change when its all yuve ever done. the dark times aren't over yet but I got past 1 chapter. Just stay strong, if yu need a shoulder to lean on message me anytime.

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And the same goes for you. Message any time!

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Want2BHappy3

I know how you feel, try prioritize everything and deal with things 1 at a time. It's all you can DO...right?

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