Scared of my housemates

[EricJones]

I'm terrified to go downstairs and be amongst my housemates, when i'm eating, and even when i'm talking to them. I have the fear that they will look at me for the wrong reasons. to show their disapproval that I'm a weird guy. I shouldn't be afraid of my housemates but I am. what do I do about this?

[hypercat54]

Stay on your own if you prefer it. No one is making you mix with them if you don't want to after all.

[EricJones in reply to hypercat54]

i have to mingle with them a little bit...house rules, plus i cant just avoid all human beings

[Jeff1943]

Why do you think they will see you as weird? The world is full of different people, even eccentrics, not that I'm saying you fall into that category, and all are welcome. What has caused your lack of self confidence. It can help to talk about it, I suggest your fears are most likely to be unfounded.

[EricJones in reply to Jeff1943]

A person calling me weird in the past...and me letting that fester for years

[Jeff1943 in reply to EricJones]

Remember, all outstanding people are called weird by those who are mediocre.

[hypercat54 in reply to EricJones]

Don't rent rooms in your head to toxic people.....

[Downinil in reply to hypercat54]

Oh that is a profound statement, HyperCat! Im going to remember it for my own insecurities.

[hypercat54 in reply to Downinil]

Thank you lol. Someone on here said it and I thought it was very true.

[EricJones in reply to hypercat54]

There not toxic though

[Indiegal]

Is this a new living situation? If it is, maybe it will just take time to get to know them and let them get to know you. Maybe start interacting with one person and see if you can find some common ground.

I'm sorry you feel like they'll think you're weird... and that you think that's a bad thing. The most interesting people I know are a little weird and eccentric, and that's what makes them unique and interesting. I think if we were all alike, life would be very boring. Own your uniqueness. Sometimes it's the weird stuff we share about ourselves that makes people want to hear more. They may not always like or agree with everything you say or do, but that's ok. Just trying to connect with people in some way is a good first step. If it makes you uncomfortable to put everything out there, maybe try jumping onto topics others bring up at first to ease yourself into being more vulnerable.

[MaggieSylvie]

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Weird doesn't mean being disapproved of. If you were taught table manners as a child, just make sure you haven't forgotten them! There's nothing wrong with being "weird", and that's only someone's opinion that you are. So far, it seems to be your own opinion of yourself. Is it true?