Different Day

[BedBug]

Hi. Today was a different kind of day for me. I actually talked myself into going to a family gathering. It's not that I don't get along with my family, just I feel uncomfortable. I am alone, no boyfriend or spouse. They all have one. It felt a little strange to start with but anxiety loosened up. It was nice to see everyone and I did have a good time. I guess you could say I broke the ice. Now that I have done this I need to remind myself to keep going and not to isolate myself. Thanks for listening.

[Adlon57]

I know the feeling, I am disabled, retired, live by myself, continually talk myself into, I'm an individual, I enjoy being on my own? But I realise I must get outside sometime, heck I even suffer from claustrophobia [caught in a sand dune when I was a kid], I blame that transport is too limited around here, [it is🙄] I've just come out of a major bad health period, seven years, I want to travel explore, although terminally ill, broken skull and shattered rib cage structure, I need to enjoy what life is left, maybe some ambitions in there somewhere?🤞

[Adlon57 in reply to Adlon57]

Heck! I've just seen "When Harry met Sally" blimey I am lonely as well! Have I left it too late🙄?

[BedBug in reply to Adlon57]

Thank you for your reply. It is good to speak to someone else who knows where I am coming from. Be good to yourself.

[Adlon57 in reply to BedBug]

👍👌

[BedBug in reply to Adlon57]

Thank you

[Adlon57 in reply to Adlon57]

I find myself being on my own for so many years, I have evolved my way of thinking, my own beliefs, I'm a strong believer an Agnostic, for over forty years, [almost hear horror from the rest of the family, definitely more traditional believers] due to this I am shunned by my family, who are in some respect, almost embarrassed by me, one of my younger sister's has severe PTSD, and severely cut herself from the rest of my family, I have three sister's and one older brother. My social circle has just receded so much, almost non-existent, just through time, them moving away, losing contact, etc. I don't like the area I live in most of my life, I've always wanted to move away, I still have dreams where to, but....

[tommy2toes]

Well done you. You overcame your hesitancy, made a plan, and then carried it out. That would be considered a SUCCESS. You should be proud of yourself. Without going crazy, you might make plans to do it again while setting your own ground rules.

Best of luck

t2t (tommy2toes)

[BedBug in reply to tommy2toes]

Thank you. It is a good feeling knowing I accomplished something that I wanted to do. Will keep plugging away at this. You have a good day.

[Shnookie]

congratulations 🎉 props 🤩 and kudos ☘️ to you. Yes you can be single and go to a family gathering or a party and have a great time. I’m single and am going to a young cousin’s wedding in a few weeks. Truth be known they have their cliques, but I introduce myself to people at times. If they R not sociable, I just go back to my table and take in the atmosphere around me. I know it sounds easier said than done. I’m 65 and have reached a point in my life where I try to say to myself at times go for it.

[BedBug in reply to Shnookie]

Thank you for your suggestions. You are right on. I am about to be 66. Really helps to chat.

[Shnookie in reply to BedBug]

You R very welcome. Chatting on HU is helpful. People here have given me support when I really needed it.

[BedBug in reply to Shnookie]

Yes it is. We are all human and need support at different times. It is nice to chat with you.

[Shnookie in reply to BedBug]

Pleasure chatting with U as well.

[BedBug]

Thank you for your reply. Yes isolation does seem comforting but really isn't. Have a good day.

[CalmSeeker1]

Great job getting out and participating in a social event! Definitely an accomplishment to be proud of 🙂

[BedBug in reply to CalmSeeker1]

Thank you. Trying to do alittle bit more slowly. Have a good day.