Real friends

Does anyone else struggle with figuring out who their real friends are? Just trying to figure out if they actually want to see me happy and successful or if they secretly want to see me down. It sounds crazy but it’s real out here. The reason I question is because when I share good news with a “friend” I either get crickets or someone just undermines me in such a backhanded way, like they’ll passive aggressively respond like a week later or pretend they didn’t see it lol

[Ellamaye]

It doesn't sound crazy at all don't you dare doubt yourself. There is no test or formula though. Trust is just that trust and that's what friendship is

[Hidden in reply to Ellamaye]

thank you for that validation 🥹I know for a fact that intuition is absolutely real. It’s just trusting my judgement and now just being careful of who I allow into my inner circle

[Hidden in reply to Ellamaye]

plus too it’s not like a once in awhile thing where messages get lost or people get busy it’s like over time I notice a pattern

[tommy2toes]

In my experience, the test of whether friends are true ones or not, is when S literally hits the fan. For example, when somebody is sick, who is it that actually puts skin in the game and cares for them, rather than just sending their best wishes by a short text message? Likewise, if your house was on fire, which of your acquaintances would you trust to help put it out?

I feel I have a pretty good antennae for distinguishing between real friends and mere acquaintances. I would assume that you are likewise (it might be something innate that we all have). Accordingly, if your gut (or subconscious) tells you that somebody looks like a duck and sounds like one too, they most probably are.

Sorry for the mixed metaphors.

t2t (tommy2toes)

[Hidden]

no for sure I see what you mean about the fire. Lately I def watch people’s actions based on words. Like if my bf calls when he says he will, I’m like ok he meant what he said. Versus is a friend claims they want to hang out, yet they constantly cancel or are too busy when the time comes..

I struggle with discerning my fears from my past versus intuition. If I feel off about someone I’m like ok dang I feel weird but have no evidence of them being deceitful.

[Ellamaye in reply to Hidden]

So funny that you and 2 toes mentioned fire 🤣. My good friend lived round the corner from her brother and her house set on fire . She still had to ring me in middle of the night. Point of story... her bros a twat 🤣

[Hidden in reply to Ellamaye]

Dayyyyyum wow

[Hidden in reply to Ellamaye]

and I’m sending prayers n good thoughts 🥺🙏🏽