depression

[Kingdomstitch]

Hello, my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me 5-6 months ago. It started out as just a falling a part but it turned into emotional cheating from her part. I started therapy around the time we had initially stopped sleeping together and the first couple of sessions were rough but I have gotten better but the problem I’m running into now is she still lives with me and is still talking to the guy she cheated on me with and it’s making it hard for me to do better in work and therapy. I feel like I don’t want to stay at my job but I don’t have anything else to fall back on. I’m just now about to get medical insurance and hopefully I can get some medicine to help with my lows but I’ve never done that before. I just am having a hard time sleeping, working and just living and I feel like even my therapist is giving up on me. I’m told I’m a good person but why was I not good enough for her and I just am doubting my self everyday. It’s very hard for me to make friends and relationships with my anxiety I just want another partner who actually wants to be with me.

[CLB1125]

why are you still living together? It’s going to be hard to heal if the source of your pain is around you every day. Be patient with yourself. It takes time to move forward. Medication may help you, be open to trying it. I would suggest staying at your job, it will keep your mind occupied and get you out and among others. Don’t just assume you were the problem in your relationship, it takes two for it work.

[Kingdomstitch in reply to CLB1125]

We’re still living together because she is on the lease and I’m to kind to kick her out it’s not in me to do it.

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Just to know- I agree with CBL observations

[Kingdomstitch]

something else I was thinking about she doesn’t relize she emotionaly cheated do I bring that up or do you think it’s too late just let it be

[ItsJustMe070 in reply to Kingdomstitch]

First of all - you remind me of me. I'll tell you what I would tell myself (4.5 years, he has emotionally/physically cheated on me and even went to be with her the day my niece died, the day of her funeral, the next day and then when my ex got sole custody he of course was no help).

Don't mention the cheating. She knows what she did. She isn't sorry or she would be saying as much and coming clean. You will be enough for the right person. We get so comfortable (even with being sad/lonely/mistreated) that anything different.... Even better... Is scary. I promise the walk out of the swamp is so much messier than the walk in but once you feel that sun on your face you will understand why you had to walk out of the swamp.

Please be sure you aren't hugging her, kissing her, having sex etc. You will only confuse yourself and make it that much harder. See if there is an activity, meeting or event you can occupy yourself with. Before you know it you will be busy and not sitting all glum. Just don't fall for her tricks when she tries to get you back because she sees you moving on! Keep on walking!!!!

Any movement is progress as long as it's forward. Don't look back

Best to you