About friends and dating

[ChronicLegend]

I use to be a dializys patient for a bit over 13 years. Wen I finally got my transplant, I was left with quite a bit of anxiety.I looked for help in a few places, and after many trial and errors my anxiety is a bit more stable.

I still get quite a bit anxious outside home, but I have learn to control it so it does not become a panic attack.. it is, tiresome.. due to it, I have many acquaintances, but no friends. At least. Not here in USA. And wen it comes to dating I have not dated anyone in a bit over 7 years. With that said, I do not mind being alone.. but I do get lonely sometimes. Just wanted to leave this in here and see what people think.

Any ladies looking to date?😅

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I can kind of relate. My worst was when I was a kid suffering from anxiety and depression. I was living in a chaotic household and being bullied at school. I didn't really have friends at school. When I left school because of my anxiety. I was definitely feeling the loneliness. But we didn't yet have social media so people I once called friends quickly move on and forgot about me.

I eventually work up the courage to join a forum and through there I made some lasting friendships. But even with those friendships, it got harder because as we got older. They went off to college and go mates. Meanwhile I'm stuck at home. Despite having friends from across the world, nobody was available. I was okay until I wanted some type of companionship. But I didn't know how to go about it. As I told my therapist then. What do I have to offer? I'm an agoraphobic with anxiety and acute depression who at the time couldn't drive and doesn't have a job. How would anyone date someone like me? Her answer was to get a job. Which was a bit disheartening because my therapist knows I'm an agoraphobic. How can I leave to find work? Plus work requires an education.

I felt there was really no hope. Any potential prospects would bail once I tell them everything. They will judge me before they would even get to know me.

As time moved on. I started to improve with my anxiety and going out a little. I had my first date in my 20s. It went well. But I did eventually did meet someone. Through the online forum I was on. When social media became the rage I added folks from there to Myspace page and then to Facebook. And someone who I spoke with once happened to be up early in the morning and I decided to slide into his DMs 😂

We have been together for 11yrs now.

[ChronicLegend in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Dang that is amazing. I feel very happy to know you found your souldmate!If I may ask, how do you do these days? Did you ever stop having agoraphobia?

[CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to ChronicLegend]

Yes I did stop having agoraphobia. It took time. Going out for X minutes and coming back home. Like when I was younger my mom would take me out for a drive in the country which I could spend hours in a car. But like going to the mall was hard. Because people...eww 😂 But she helped go out in public places for some time. Eventually I was staying out longer and eventually going by myself to places.

These days I'm getting back to where I wanna be. The reason why I join this site was because I had a remission of anxiety brought on by a medical scare and bad medicine. Now that I'm getting proper care. I'm working towards my goals of going out again. I'm doing okay. How are you doing after joining the site?

[ChronicLegend in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

That is good to hear!I am doing alright.

Learning to recognize what anxiety is and what may be a potential trigger as well as learning to control it has help me quite a bit.

I don't spend a lot of time on this site anymore. Sometimes I have anxiety related questions and the good folks here are more than nice to anwerd!

May you find strength to face your fears.

May you find and retain happiness for as long as possible.

Thanks for answering.

[hypercat54]

I don't know if that was a joke or not but will point out that this isn't a dating site. If you try and use it for that purpose HU will delete your account.

[ChronicLegend]

Heya everyone. Yes, the last part was a joke.

[hypercat54 in reply to ChronicLegend]

Good that is a relief. There have unfortunately been a number of cases where men (usually men) try and use the site for dating purposes or maybe catfishing which has caused some to be upset here. Also where pics have been sent and demanded back...