Disappointments

[Tulip2407]

I'm not sure if this is even related to the group. In my 20s I was organized and performed well at work. I loved my work because it gave me an opportunity to explore world people and boosted my confidence to do things mostly independently. Now it's really hard for me to be as organized as before or find time for myself. It's not that I don't have time but I'm so lost with work house mess that I just get drifted. I see other women perfect, their house is clean well decor, they are dressed well working and earning better than me although they started late. This gives me lots of pressure a anxiety. I wish to go and buy attractive dress or get nice house decor or be super exited with work. But no I won't move a inch it could be because of my spouse who thinks we don't need anything. I feel strangled trapped where I cannot live my way. There is no force but neither there is a agreement or excitement for the same. I'm gaining weight I tried to enroll in a program but no he thinks it's not worth go for walk but how I have home office kid how do I go? I feel sad and anger boils within but I won't let it out because finally I know it's not worth fighting. Deep inside I fell like punching things but again I cannot do that. Is it's wrong to expect for a better life something that u alws wanted

[Dolphin14]

I think you should look to a life of happiness and peace for yourself . I don't think there is anything wrong with that

You have a child, can't you walk with the child?

Try and remember that people that appear to be perfect and have it all together could be struggling with different things

Try and make some little changes first.

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[Turnipgirl in reply to Dolphin14]

Thats it we all struggle but with different things but it's not openly talked about!

Yesterday I became extremely angry and frustrated over a booked appointment but I have calmed down now after a chat and a good night's sleep!

[Dolphin14 in reply to Turnipgirl]

Turnip

So glad you feel better. You don't want to waste today over yesterday's stuff. Good job

❤️🐬

[Turnipgirl in reply to Dolphin14]

I'm looking forward to a planned Saturday self care day tomorrow though where I will take my time!

Yesterday I do feel that when that happened it was life stepping in telling me no it's not right for you!

I did enjoy a walk in the country park across from the site though after that happened!

Then I went into town to get the express bus to swimming and got told they don't accept the ticket I had on those buses so that was that!

What I did was rang swimming up and cancelled with them and apologised and said I had had a pig of a morning and they said how we have all been there at some point which helped and I laughed and said I will see them this afternoon and that I will as well!

[Dolphin14 in reply to Turnipgirl]

Enjoy your swimming and yourself care day!!

You deserve it

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

Hello tulip and dolphin so true in what you say no one has the perfect life, life doesn't work that way, look at the stars on TV and music buiseness footballers etc they appear to have it all but they die young from health issues, I know plenty of people who appear to have it all but they have health issues or lost loved ones even pets, often those with well paid seemingly fantastic careers are very stressed, they don't get good pay for nothing, often those that appear happy and care free always joking have lots to feel with, many famous comedians re spike Milligan had depresshion, Tommy cooper, alcohol probs George best famous footballer, George Micheal famous singer drugs and alcohol due to grief loss of partner I could go on, one of my favourites Doris Day treat bad by men Olivia newton John ongoing battle with breast cancer, and not much luck with men early years I read, died young too, no one has it all no way, 💖✨🐝oh Elvis Presley looks at him 🙄life's short tulip don't waste it wanting what we havnt got enjoy what you have yes follow your dreams but be realistic you can only do what you can do and have what you can have small steps🤗

[Turnipgirl in reply to Hidden]

My take on this is that what you do control is your behaviour and attitude and to try your very best at all times!

I am lots better this morning after yesterday's fiasco in Newport and off to swimming this afternoon as booked for 3pm and got yet again a packed lunch with lots of fruit and veg in it!

Hopefully I will get a walk in the park as well at some point!

My sister in law said how that was petty yesterday afternoon on the x30 over the ticket!

[CLB1125]

It’s not wrong to want things to make your life easier, nicer, making you happy. It’s frustrating when your so doesn’t see your vision. I realized I have always waited for permission to do something that I want. I wonder why I let myself get to that place. Maybe try small things get some new makeup to help you feel better about yourself. Are you crafty? Making crafts to spruce up your house. If you have a $1 store near you there are so many possibilities. Plus crafting reduces stress. I’m addicted to Pinterest! Lol

[Beevee]

Don't judge yourself by others. They are probably struggling too and think your life is perfect. Life is not perfect.Life is also a marathon, not a sprint. There will be times when you are ahead, times when you are behind. It doesn't matter. Go at your own pace and care less about what other people are doing or might be thinking.

[Hidden]

Hello I lived with a guy in a council house on a estate I wanted a private bought house in nicer area I was brought up that way he didn't want that, I didn't love him properly anyway and never pref living on my own I got job full time worked 6o hours a week in busy season saved like crazy I had been saving prior to moving in with him after my flat wasnt suitable for my cats, he knew my house goal, I succeeded my dream became mortgage free by age 4o and started saving about age 3o, I now live in my dream house had 2 on my way up to my dream house, I did get some inheritance so was able to achieve house 3 I kept visualizing myself living in one of these houses, fate has a part the house had sold I was in process of buying another I passed one day after wishing i had the house, saw them in garden back way when was in park I said is your house still sold they said buyers just dropped out, i wish you a contended life 🤗💖✨🐝