Does anyone experience this?
I have a tough time crying. I have this feeling or urge to cry when I’m feeling lonely and down. I want cry but it’s tough releasing all my trapped emotions. I try to binge watch sad videos to make it easier for me to cry. Whenever I cry from the videos, most of the time some trapped emotions are released but tend to still have some left.
I feel the same way. I tend to feel numb and dissociate, empty of any emotion. You’re not the only one
Thank You. For me I don’t get numbed. Though I think I know what you are talking about. Numb meaning like not knowing or to have anything to do with the emotion?
Hey,
Crying is a good way to let go of tension. I believe that as we do more of something we need a greater level of stimulus to provide the desired experience. Just like happiness if you keep taking in sources of dopamine, its value is lost and it requires you to find something greater. Maybe this is why you struggle to cry.
What I did was place my negative emotion into an activity to release it. A great way is to exercise because you feel better after it. I used to listen to sad music and imagine scenarios in my head to make me upset and validate my negative emotions in a way but I realised after some time I wasn't improving in any way.
I would recommend ditching the sad music and videos and bringing some optimism in life. Everyone wants comfort. After a cry we may feel comfortable as we get tired. But provide a longer term of satisfaction by replacing crying with an activity you used to enjoy before or a new one that brings your interest out.
I hope this helps you in any way. You deserve to be happy
Thank you for your reply. I think for me I will always have a part of me that’s sad. Maybe from growing up, losing friends, or have no one to talk to. Well I do have a person. But I still have a sad feeling.
I do walk daily for about an hour and do 68 F cold showers. Feels good at the moment. But probably still sad.
I think for me is I try to accomplish tasks that are challenging that most people won’t do, feel proud of myself but don’t really have anyone to share.
I don’t quite know but I’m just trying to understand myself.
It takes time and effort to understand yourself definitely.
It is great that you have walks and challenge yourself. At the moment you may not have someone to share those with but eventually you will find someone that can be with you during those. I like the quote that goes like this roughly: To transform a child into an adult, life makes them alone.
What helped me was writing my own personal mind guide. I write about lessons learnt from the past and how I overcame them and then principles to establish in order to grow. I've been alone at university for a couple of years and in the beginning I struggled to cope. I saw loneliness as a bad thing and I didn't take care of myself. But now I have learnt to embrace independence as a valuable skill to have and it's being content in solitude rather than seeing it as being all alone that also helps.
There are things in my past which I've learnt to let go by writing them down and accepting that what happened will be a memory which I cannot change. I remove anything that ties me to the negatives of it for example, hate or trauma. I view it as a life lesson to learn from rather than a moment that hurt.
Once you have truly come to terms with yourself there is greatness. But nothing great comes easy and so there's a lot of value through embracing difficulty. I believe you've got this. I never believed in myself until I started to overcome one problem after the next but there's still so much I must work on. But proof of result can be a reminder that you've come a long way from the past.
I used to hold back my tears and just stuff all my emotions down and burry them. About 5 or so years ago something inside of me just caved or snapped and the dam broke and I haven’t looked back since. Whenever I feel it I just let it out now. I’m not embarrassed by it anymore. There are days at work when I’m just crying and most of the time I know on occasion I think I’ve just bottled so much in that it’s still coming out!! Sometimes it’s cause I’m cutting onions!!
Growing up I was learnt men don’t cry or it’s embarrassing for men to cry. Are either of those thoughts for you, or is there anything else that stops your from crying?
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