Just Breathe. Reminder to myself and others...

[Shanm2]

Let's just say that some stuff has happened in my life lately, and my reactions has confused me. Everything I should have felt at the time of these events. I didn't. I felt nothing as close to what I should've done.

Until the beginning of the week. Everything I wasn't feeling, I sure started to.

I'm aware that I need to let these negative emotions out. I tried watching a sad film to get the tears coming and it did, for 2 mintues and then nothing.

I know that i need to cry more, but I can't.

This feeling of wanting to feel so much but can't scares me. It triggers certain types of habits that I do not wish to do.

Breathe! I'm scared. My head hurts and I want to sleep.

This is going to pass I know.

Just breathe. Tomorrow is another day.

[JAYnLA]

While you’re breathing, picture your actual brain and picture it cooling down, calming down. I’ve been visualizing this sometimes lately and it seems to help.

[Shanm2 in reply to JAYnLA]

This seems like a good tip, Thank you! I'm glad it helps you

[hypercat54]

I too find it difficult to cry mainly because I am scared I won't be able to stop. I always do though but the fear is that one day I won't.

People react in different ways to different situations though and how you feel is relevant to you. For example because of my family if I see people arguing I get the urge to laugh. I should be feeling sad but I am not. That's ok as I understand where it comes from. x

[Shanm2 in reply to hypercat54]

I can so relate to that, I have an "awkward" smile or laugh in situations where smiling or laughing should not be happening, I find that it can make people more angry or uncomfortable without me meaning to

[hypercat54 in reply to Shanm2]

Well tough! They haven't your experiences and you are entitled to feel the way you do. If others don't like it it's their problem not yours. You haven't got to justify yourself to anyone, only yourself. x

[Shanm2 in reply to hypercat54]

very true words, Thank you

[hypercat54 in reply to Shanm2]

Never let anyone diss your feelings or tell you you shouldn't react in a certain way. Validate yourself if no one else will. Your emotions matter and so do you. x

[Shanm2]

Sorry about that, it's good to know I'm not the only one

[Skydreamer42]

I take showers when I need to think. It is a safe, isolated comfortable space to consider thoughts, memories, their implications. Be gentle with yourself. Care for yourself as you would for someone precious. Respect yourself. Explore your emotions as long as you feel safe to do so. Ask yourself questions, if you feel comfortable doing so. Another perspective may be that in times of great stress the mind might shut off emotional response to cope and process. Consider what may be healthiest for you. Consider what comforts you. Consider what relaxes and calms you. Do something you might enjoy. Healthful self interest.

[Shanm2]

Thank you for your words, i appreciate it