Feel like my life is fadeing away

[Easilycrushed]

All i ever wanted was to meet a good man who loved me, get married and then start a family. Thats not a crazy dream....yet it never happened. I thought i was close. I met a good man and loved him dearly but there are many between us and he still has some growing up to do. We had dated 10 months and we both have made mistakes but in the end he broke up with me. So within 10 months i gained a best friend and boyfriend and his 2 little kids to loseing them all in one day. And it hurts. They were my world. Everywhere i go im hit with memories. Of carrying the babies around in the grocery store. Of him and i holding hands as we walked. The sound of a baby laughing. The way he would look at me smiling like i was the greatest thing ever. I fight to not let my heart turn bitter. Fight to keep from breaking down crying. How do i find peace to love them and let them go

[litethatnevergoesout]

It breaks my heart hearing about your loss. I think you’ll get the best response from the bereavement forum on HU.

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[TailWags]

Well, i am not the person to offer relationship advice. I am 60 and never married. I have been in relationships and the good ones are always so hard when they end. And every time i wondered if it was really better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Today, many years after my last break up, i think it is better to have loved and lost. Wishing you strength and healing.

[Ryanlion]

I know it's heart breaking for you when you attach yourself to other people's children and they are taken from you. But that's the trouble , he is their father and he must do right by them. You will heal but you must cry out your heartbreak, it's normal. Maybe your keeness to have a family blinded you to somethings that were not right. I too bad a dream to marry & have a family but for me it was not my destiny. You don't say how old you are but you are still young I feel. Remember love is like a butterfly, if you chase it you never catch it. Stay still & calm & it will land on you.

[catsrock]

That's very sad. I'm sorry.

[PeterHook]

Hi,

I have a lot of empathy for you having been in an eighteen year marriage with my own children involved. The pain is very real.

Access counseling if you can. Time IS a healer but one thing that is very positive to do and ANYONE can do it is gratitude. Look into the gratitude practice. Get into the habit of it... it will get easier and you will change perhaps faster than you think.

Once you have some momentum, may I recommend a book that is currently helping me? I'm not the author BTW The Last Book On The Law Of Attraction You Will Ever Need by Andrew Kapp. I am almost through the audio version of it and, if you put it into practice, you will begin to see some positive synchronicities faster than you think and feel a better too. You will still have bad days but you will deal with them better.

Missing children can be heart-rending. Sending you lots of love and compassion.

[Easilycrushed in reply to PeterHook]

Thank you. I will look the book up. Thank you for listening and the advice🫂

[PeterHook]

It is helping me and I hope it helps you. At the very least, it gives a sense of hope that things can improve. If you're open to Bach Flowers, I'm finding Gorse (for hope) helpful at the minute too. Hugs and sympathy on your way through the ether