feeling extremely down after betrayal

[GrayWolf8]

How do people cope with betrayal? I mean in case it was not caused by someone close, but more like by a random person with whom a deal was broken and the victim ripped off. I ask about that kind of betrayal. How much does it affect any normal person?

I feel very much affected, It is hard for me to deal with the unfairness. And I do not understand why everyone is so cold about it, looking down on me and looking for faults in me, while the situation is clear and nothing much is left for a doubt. Is there anything that makes some people react more heavily to such situations than others? I am so overwhelmed now. I already have isolated myself from society, and even though, I still face these situations by those minimum contacts that are left in my social life. Are my feelings normal and valid or am I letting them overcome, while it should not be any big deal? For me, the world is an unsafe place, filled with traitors, liars, and cheaters, and every time I encounter any such person, I fall apart, fall into depression, and feel weak and tired.

[Spiritanimal]

Your thoughts and feelings are always valid, and I agree that the world can feel very unsafe and there is a worldwide crisis right now of people feeling the way you feel (myself included). It sounds like what you experienced was traumatic and you are living in a contracted, traumatized state - a totally normal, human response to trauma!! I’m sort of living that way right now too, and am currently working to just completely accept and acknowledge where I am, honor my own thoughts and feelings and my own needs. I’m also working through some specific. details of it (a very toxic work environment that I left recently, my inability to set boundaries, and unresolved childhood trauma) - with a therapist. One thing we discovered early on in therapy is that I hold onto relationships with people who are not validating and with whom I feel unsafe. It is hard work to disengage from them because, again, I struggle with boundaries. But one piece of advice I’ll give you is let go of (or create distance from) people in your life who cause you to feel unsafe or ashamed!! And intentionally cultivate relationships with people who are loving and accepting. I promise they are out there 💕💕💕

[GrayWolf8 in reply to Spiritanimal]

Thank you so much for this response. I wish I could go to therapy but until then, I try to get some insight into this subject on my own. Your response gave me some and I am truly thankful for that. I will start looking in this direction. Wishing you lots of love and safe&lovely people around, who have their best intentions towards you!

[Spiritanimal in reply to GrayWolf8]

I’m glad that my reply was helpful to you! I understand struggling to access therapy, I’ve been in that boat also and I feel for you ♥️ it’s hard to do it on your own. I’m glad that you are utilizing this support group, I am really trying to reach out more in groups like these and find supportive, healthy people to talk toI know that I don’t have enough of them in my life. I’m so sorry for what happened to you, it sounds like you were treated terribly and it has left you feeling very unsafe. Feel free to message me if you ever need to vent!