I'm scared of new year

[Against_the_current]

I'm scared mom will get drunk and/or talk how her co-workers are partying. Last year she got drunk and i asked her politely to stop and she lashed out and told me I'm a narc0 and drug addict for taking medication. And im scared what the new year will bring, rn im sick, unable to walk and constantly abused.

[Thistooshallpass7]

I’m so sorry. I truly hope you find some joy in another aspect of your life for the new year!

[Ellamaye]

Please try to remove yourself from this situation x

[Against_the_current in reply to Ellamaye]

I can't litterary. My leg is twisted and i have bronchitis. I'm stuck here

[SoporRose]

AtC,

What if you talk with your mom BEFORE she starts drinking? Can you do so calmly and without sounding judgmental? You know, use the “I feel” statements you learned getting your degree. I’m guessing you’ll tell e that won’t work, but it’s all I can think that you might do.

Would it be possible to spend the evening with your boyfriend? Could you put on your brace and go out with your sister somewhere?

For what it’s worth, remember that there really isn’t any more difference between 31 December, 2023, and 1 January, 2024 than there is between any other two days.

youtu.be/qSt2td5wwyA?si=sLA...(Not working as expected?)

We’re rooting for you to find a way out of your situation.

When does the doctor say you’ll be able to walk?

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

I can't talk with her, she will say "I'm so miserable, my two daughters are sick and ungrateful, I'm alone, do you want me to be a saint". I can't go with my sister, i can't walk this much nor was i invited. And my boyfriend is in Sofia and I'm in Stara Zagora which are different cities and have a lot of travelling and none of us can drive. I can't take the train for 5-6 hours in this state. And probably there won't be trains. And i should have done it with warning, mom would be all alone. I'm sorry just im really trapped. I'm really scared and i can't find a solution

[CLB1125 in reply to Against_the_current]

I know you love your mom but maybe she should spend time alone, then she might be more grateful for you. I wish I could help you more. I was married to a drinker. He was a fun loving caring man until he drank then he turned into a bastard! Nothing I did or said made a difference to him. A marriage counselor told me he won’t quit drinking until he realizes he has a problem. And he didn’t. He had 3 failed marriages and a failed relationship. 3 children that separated themselves from him and he still kept drinking. It wasn’t until he became a severe diabetic and started going blind did he quit . Now he is dying of liver disease because of all the drinking. It’s sad but alcohol and drug addiction are the worst forms of self abuse. You nor anyone else can make her stop. But you can remove yourself from the abuse. She belittles you because she knows she can control you doing it. Refuse to listen to her or believe what she says. Do you have a room where you can lock the door and put on music so you don’t have to listen to her? It’s not being mean or disrespectful to do so. It’s self care. Hugs girl.

[Against_the_current in reply to CLB1125]

That sounds terrifying. I don't have a room. Until i recover from all my illnesses i can't get away from her

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

AtC,

It sounds as if you won’t be able to recover from your illness until you get away from her. O think that the longer you wait, the more damaged you’ll get, and that will make it even harder to get away.

I am so sorry you are trapped.

[CLB1125]

where are your grandparents? Can you spend the evening with them?

[Against_the_current in reply to CLB1125]

At the countryside without a bathroom inside. Impossible with my leg

[CLB1125 in reply to Against_the_current]

Oh I understand.