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[callmeCrazy]

Hello I am new to the group I am 24 years old and I am feeling depressed because I am lacking a sense of purpose and unhappy. My happiness tend to rely on others. I feel like i am not doing the right things with my life a lot of the time. I often drink to mask the pain i am feeling and make others victims of my sadness. I work 2 jobs and try to maintain a social life as much as possible. I don’t know the things I like with my life but only things i seem to like tend to rely on other things such as gambling, smoking, drinking and socializing. i’m here seeking help

[IncognitoC]

hi there and welcome to the group.

I hope that you find help here. There are many people here who are always willing to talk/ listen and advise.

[LadyZen]

Welcome. It sounds like you have a lot to process. I hope you find the support and answers you need here. I don't have any answers for you. Usually, we have our own answers inside us. Sometimes we just need the help of friends, supportive people, or therapists to help process it.

[LoveforAll41]

Hi callmeCrazy, I think that recognizing how you feel is the first step to finding purpose. I would try to spend some time alone with yourself and find what brings you joy. I don't know if it is feasible financially but I would consider working one job if you can and maybe volunteer or find other meaningful stuff to do with your time. I guess dating can be a process of self-discovery but I think that self-love is good to have first. I think there are probably all sorts of aptitude tests you could take to see what you might enjoy.

Therapists can help people identify their core values and then you can see where you may not be living in harmony with those. It would seem you may be trying to find value in some activities which is a problem I have. We can't get value from working or getting degrees or getting promoted or being fit. We can't lose value from being a slob or unproductive. We have worth just as we are, which for me is freeing to do what I enjoy.

[Ellamaye]

Hiya your not alone.

[Teaching]

You are welcome to the group! I hope you find the answers you deserve.

[Hidden]

Welcome to the group. We will find many supportive and helpful people here.

It sounds like the first thing that would be helpful for you would be to talk to somebody who can help you sort out what's going on, what specific problems you're having, and what your goals are. I would suggest seeing a therapist to do an initial evaluation and clarify what's going on and what would be helpful for you. First clarify, then treat. You list a number of problems that need to be understood and then dealt with. I hope that you can find some peace.