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[Emptyspace2]

I am in my 50s, I have depression , I often feel lonely. I work in mental health, but often ignore or neglect my own needs. I’m not outgoing anymore (I once was). I try to help others, even when I’m in desperate need of help myself. I have deep trust issues. I guess that’s the basics, I hope coming here is going to be positive I struggle just to keep my head above water, taking care of myself and my home. It often starts to feel like this is just way too much effort, and I get tired of struggling and stressing out. Like I start losing interest in surviving. It’s like if nobody else cares, why should I?

[Agora1]

Because I Care Emptyspace2...We Care as a community of people who understand

loneliness and emotional pain. I can see how your being in the mental health position

can allow you to wear down and struggle. However, life is all about taking care of ourselves

in order to help others. I've always been in the medical field which if not careful we can

burn out as well. I choose to use my knowledge in protecting myself and using my life

experience in helping others. I've also learned to Pace myself, to give myself "me time"

each day. We must also Love ourselves as we would others in need.

I'm glad you are here with us Emptyspace2. It's your first step in going forward and

I'm proud of you for that. We're all put here for a reason. Even with this community,

we were meant to be here at this time and place. Let's make the most of it.

People need people, we all have the same needs and wants in life. I'm glad you are here

with us. Welcome new friend. May you find what you are looking for....understanding xx

[Emptyspace2 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you, your reply is so helpful

[Poetry_n_more]

Reaching out is sometimes helpful in its self. Advice is often flatlined with platitudes and I have never been good at passing out advice. You should know that you are an intricate part of the human community and that you probably make a much greater beneficial contribution to others than you realize. That makes you irreplaceable. I too am deeply depressed. I am in my mid seventies and have advanced emphysema and my future doesn't look promising. It is my eternal hope that we have purpose beyond this life and that gives me courage to keep going. I sincerely hope that you find comfort and know you are important.

[Emptyspace2 in reply to Poetry_n_more]

I too hope there’s more to our lives than what we experience in life, I believe it because I have experienced some things in life that make me believe this

[gajh]

Hello and Welcome. I care.

[Emptyspace2 in reply to gajh]

Thank you, it means a lot. Caring is what helps us all to heal

[Rafibromylygia]

Hope you pick up soon Are there no work colleagues who you could maybe confide in maybe

Shows it can happen to all and you work in mental health

And putting work over yiur own issues

Hope you can pick up soon

[Cotton_candy91]

dear , Emptyspace2

I understand what you feel and what you are going through ! I have just posted about it , I can’t really tell you that it will pass or it will change or get better or even worse , but I share the same feeling and I do understand you and it is exhausting and u feel the idea of ending this is getting more series in a calm way like u just want to stop this and that’s it .

[Emptyspace2]

thanks, I used to have that, but I took a new position where I work from home now, so not as much contact with fellow workers

[Cb1963]

Well firstly you are a bit of a unsung hero 👏, unbeknown people like you have repaired my life, and I'm sorry you're struggling at the moment, I received counselling through different services, you carried our difficulties when times were tough and had my back in my darkest day's,I can't promise to make things better, however I've become the person that carries empathy, understanding and above all else a caring member of society , even on this forum you'll release some of your emotions, we can try to gather more about you as time goes along, even talking about pets or the weather!!!

Rest assured you are in good company, and we're here to listen, and just try and find your feet, thanks 😊

[Emptyspace2 in reply to Cb1963]

Thank you! Very uplifting comment, thank you for reading my post. I look forward to being on this forum. I have to be a good example, I have to do the self care that I tell others to do.

[Breezyfeathers]

That sounds...so difficult. Especially giving so much of your energy when you're really struggling. As someone who desperately needs their therapist sometimes, thank you for all your effort.

[Gramas]

Please know you are not alone. I for one have the same thoughts and feelings as you. Where it seems that at one time life was good, it has now just become a struggle. I spend a lot of time taking care of others but no one takes care of me. All I can say is while I’m relatively new here this forum has been very helpful for me reading through others similar issues and garnering advice. Stay in touch and let us know how you are doing.