I am never beating my kids

[97Bunny11]

I don't care if it's discipline. There are other ways to discipline your kids. I don't care if it's in

"our culture." It won't be in my and my future husband's culture. I've seen what it does to children as they get older. It does more harm than good. I'd argue that it doesn't do any good at all. I mean, yeah, you beat your kid to oblivion because they didn't do their homework. Now they do it. Congrats. But at what cost? Now you're wondering why they never call you when they're older? Why they're so distant from you? Gee, I don't know Jim. Why don't you look at that faded scar on the side of your kid's head and ask why? You know, that scar that you gave him 10 years ago because they got a C on a paper?

What was that?

"They should have listened?"

"They shouldn't have taken all of that to heart?"

Ah, I'm sorry. You're right. That kid should've had the mental strength of an adult to be able to know that all of those beatings were to make them do better. Not just as something painful that they would want to move away from as far as possible. My mistake. You're right. You're always right. What do I know? I'm just a kid. And kids never know anything. Right? We're all just things to be "molded" into. Just puppets made of clay. What the heck do we know?

To those who can relate to this... I'm so sorry. I hear you, and I see you. And if you ever want to talk, feel free to reach out to me. I will listen to you. Most importantly, it is not your fault. And it was never your fault.

It is not your fault.

And it was NEVER your fault.

Edit: (I should state that I am not in this situation now, thankfully. Haven't been in a very long time. But the events still affect me.)

[Hb2003]

this is so powerful hugs so sorry that you experienced this 🫂

[97Bunny11 in reply to Hb2003]

Thanks, Girl ❤️

[Hb2003 in reply to 97Bunny11]

your welcome 🙏☺️

[designguy]

You are awesome to know the harm of corporal punishment and the harm that it causes victims long-term. I grew up in an evangelical christian household where my parents truly believed in the bullshit of "spare the rod, spoil the child" and all it did was make me angry at myself and them. It is truly a form of child abuse and causes way more harm than it does good.

[97Bunny11 in reply to designguy]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. But it is a bit more comforting to know that you aren't the only one whose been through something like that. I hope you're doing well now.

[designguy in reply to 97Bunny11]

Thanks and yes I am doing much better now.