Loneliness

[Wakeboarder24]

It’s hard being alone all the time. People label me an introvert but I do some Olympic periods of alone time. I really rely on my mother who is religious to a point that it’s annoying. I can see through some of the doctrines and it’s hard to put it away because the religion thinks it should be the center of everything. I would love to date someone but Women my age have seemed to have given up on Men. People are talking about the loneliness epidemic but messaging is also reinforcing these distant narratives. My friends seem to have a lot of problems such as drinking and now one wants to start a porn company which is offending. I want a soul to connect with because I deserve it. I deserve it more than anyone. I know I help so many people but it seems they just want things from me and not to connect with me on a real level.

[ChiaSeeds22]

Thank you for your post.

[ChiaSeeds22]

I just read your post and I can relate. I too have chosen to distance myself from those who are toxic to me. And around the holidays especially, I struggle with my choices. There are so many societal messages, telling me I "should" be around a bunch of people and I should be buying a bunch of gits etc. But, society is not interested in what is best for me. So, I give myself permission to do what is on my best interest..even if that is different from the norm. I will keep myself safe and find joy...my way. I will continue to fight the negative messages of other peoples expectations. Of what others think I should do. Of fear of not doing it right. I will work on acceptance and peace. But, alas it is hard...and I often feel alone in my endeavor. Best wishes to you and thank you again for sharing.

[LadyZen]

There was a lot of things in that short to address. Religion, introversion, women, society, friends, loneliness, and how they effect you. I hope you'll find some peace and comfort today.

[Wakeboarder24]

Everything I read from women is how disgusted they are with us. Our hygene, the way we take up space, that we’re interested in them. It’s so disheartening how they view us and I feel so unloved and unappreciated. It actually makes me rage. If you go into a bar, they assume you are a creep. On dating apps, they message you in a friendly way and then just forget about you. There is so much talk about how we are too easy and they lose interest. They say we should stop being nice to them. Can God intervene in a way that brings back unity. Can our efforts be appreciated.

[Midori in reply to Wakeboarder24]

Hi Wakeboarder,

Unfortunately, it is hard for men nowadays to meet women without being called names. Social Media has it's good and bad sides. A lot of women seem to enjoy bringing men down, which is unfortunate, for both men and women.

How about allowing us to be a place where you can get support and counselling? There is a good thing about HU. that is it is functionally anonymous, although the Admins will act on anything nasty.

Very few of us will ever meet each other, or have any method of contact other than here, so, functionally, it is safe, especially if you lock your posts to the community.

I'm a Very old bird, My son says that I changed Dinosaur diapers back in the Jurassic, but I can't claim to be quite that old. 😉

Cheers, Midori

[Mofro]

It's hell being lonely, but it beats being alone. I can attest to both. Sounds like you still have a lot of time in life to find someone you deserve. I was going to say you're fortunate to have friends, but it sounds as if you need some new ones to me.