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Why is it so difficult to just not suffer?

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Genuinely, why? Is it really so much to ask for? It's truly incomprehensible to me how people somehow enjoy this life in a lot of cases. How? What do you see that I can't see for myself? Is it them being delusional? Or me being blind?

Why does it feel like normal people are just so fundamentally different? Even aside from the desire to live, simple things like humor feels so different. I've reached a point where I can't deal with normal people anymore and I surround myself with people who also have or had similar issues. The same joke that we'd laugh uncontrollably at, would make a normal person concerned and want to call for a welfare check. I find it funny yet sad. It's just sad that we've been altered so much by our illnesses that it now feels like we're just an entirely different species.

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Hello there's no such thing as normal 🤗

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But there definitely are people who are much more mentally damaged than most.

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Yes but I class myself as normal as you say I'm not clinically depressed but do have anxiety bad at times and I am a recovering binge drinker so to speak a weakness I tend to have when stressed upset, I don't know anyone normal who doesn't have issues some smoke some chocolate binge some over work and keep busy I'm a bit like that after mid day I don't stop until tea time, as for humour you mentioned I'm a bit crazy humoured some don't always get it, 😊

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Great Post for discussion

My thought is who gets to decide who or what is normal?

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A normal person so no one 🤔💚✨

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I wear a hedgehog around my neck. Can you imagine what they are thinking of me?

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I sleep with a cat up my back lol 😹💚🌟

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Lmao!!

Define normal to me? I don't know anymore. I feel the same as you. In my outpatient program I can relate to everyone, but outside in the real world, nobody gets me.

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LoveforAll41

Hi Miami, I know that I feel very frustrated/jealous that all those "normal" people out there don't have to put conscious effort into feeling happy. Why the **** do I have to? I am not sure of your background, but I imagine we have been shaped differently than a lot of them. There are five children in my family, two of us have mental health issues the others are "normal". I think that I am maybe inherently a bit more sensitive than them and did not know how to reach out for emotional support that I needed. I do like the book "Get out of your mind and into your life" by Steven Hayes. Not that I do great applying it, but I find it freeing whenever I read it. I wish you peace, hope, and strength. I am glad that you have found a group you can hang with ☮️

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LadyZen

Today I had a revelation about suffering. I took my daughter to ER twice today. I'm very fortunate to have medical insurance to be able to do this. But when I was young, my family didn't have medical insurance. We suffered so much because of it. I'm haunted by those memories. That suffering taught me empathy and gave me gratitude. Suffering is painful in the moment, but it really does shape who we are.

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Artistfriend

There are no normal people, seriously, everyone has problems, everyone! Its part of being human, the only difference is in how you relate to your problems. Most "normal" people want nothing to do with their own suffering, they run and keep running. The reason they dont laugh at certain jokes is because they either have no sense of humor or they feel uncomfortable being so open about certain things. I used to envy certain people because i didnt know just how f'ed up everyone is. I know some of our suffering is "greater" than others but it dosent help you or them to even think of it that way, we all have our burdens its just that some dont bother to see or acknowledge them.

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