Wish my late partner hadn't done so much for me.

[secrets22]

Today i am really struggling to do the most mundane tasks, David really was an amazing man, and he did so much for me, and possibly far to much instead of letting me sort things out myself he would sort anything that was troubling me, and certainly it made my life easier, but it came with a price because i find myself floundering in a sea of uncertainty, even knowing how to inflate the car tyres correctly i find an impossible task, and you might think its easy but with new cars alarms goes off when things are out of cinc and i just cannot do it correctly, I either over inflate or under inflate.

I am so tired of everything, and running a business in the mix is no easy task. I have come so far, but not sure I want to go much further as my stomach is so churned up, and i'm scared, scared of the now and of the future.😪

[secrets22]

Thankyou Mandy, your words are very comforting, and you are correct, i dont ever bother friends, somehow i look on it as a weakness.xx🥰

[Arymretep in reply to secrets22]

Hi, I’m the same I hate to bother people yet I’m always there for everybody else , I’m always getting told off when I don’t ask for help, it’s just our nature I expect, I was brought up like M to do things for myself which is so helpful in one way but maybe that’s why I’m so independent now.

[secrets22 in reply to Arymretep]

hey Arymretep....you are same as me, i loath asking anyone to help me, and like you I'vealways been around for everyone else, and its hard to change the way we are made.

[LadyZen]

I felt like that when I divorced my ex. Just do what you can and get help with everything else. I can't deal with inflating my car tires either. You have to do it right, then reset the alert. So I let the mechanic do it. But there are things that I am able to do from watching YouTube videos. But I had to learn it over time. Just focus on the immediate things, one thing at a time. Don't worry about anything else.

[secrets22 in reply to LadyZen]

thankyou, and you are so right, life isn't easy.

[LadyZen in reply to secrets22]

It isn't. But hindsight will give us incredible wisdom.

[Arymretep]

Hi M , you ok 👍x

[Arymretep]

We’re fine, just became a great great Aunt again number 8 😳xx. Are you doing too much?

[Arymretep]

Very true, I’d rather be busy even if I’m K—-D after lol, it’ll be lovely your first Xmas in your own place , I bet you can’t wait, we bought a new Xmas tree last week as the one we had was over 20 year old and it gave up the ghost last Xmas, have a good rest tonight 😘xx

[Mrspjsmom]

Do the best you can. Eventually you will learn all these things but it will take a little time. So for now be kind to yourself.