How to Stop Worrying About My Children

[Worrier1960]

Does anyone have effective strategies for this? My daughters are having some difficulties, one in her job and one with her school environment. It pains me greatly to hear of their problems, which, while not dire, preoccupy me. I want to be supportive, but worrying about them adds to my anxiety. They say you are only as happy as your unhappiest child...

[kenster1]

it`s only natural to worry we all worry for our children I`m the same as you both my kids at high school and struggling with issues concerning kids from another school worse that it`s our neighbours feral kids.

[dancing_light]

I struggle with this, too. Mine are still small, so I have a long road ahead. Looking forward to seeing input from others.

[Dolphin14 in reply to dancing_light]

I wanted to welcome you to the group

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[Mskitty21]

I think this is a pretty common issue with most parents. The best thing I’ve found is to find things I like to do and stay busy. I had my last 2 kids leave home last year within a few months of each other and my other kiddo who lived here moved to Colorado 😨 They all left me at once!! It’s been a struggle and it does add to my anxiety. It’s difficult but they have to learn life on their own to while we as parents try to learn how to live life differently with them growing up and forward.

I PROMISE you I wish they were all still here but I’m learning to try and enjoy the time I have to do things that I like. And I don’t have to cook every night lol 😝

[LoveforAll41]

Hey Worrier, I think it is true we don't want to stop worrying about them entirely. I guess that you could probably set some healthy boundaries if you really need to? I think that for me and my wife we would feel more anxious if we felt our kids couldn't share everything with us. I think that this is one where I choose to accept the anxiety and support myself in it. Hopefully you can get good support with your spouse and your kids can vent to you and be supported in that way. Heaven knows they often don't want advice or solutions for their problems. I wish you peace, hope, and support in the worry for kids.

[Dolphin14]

I have grown children. I worry about them all the time. It's part of being a parent

I think when we get a handle on our own issues we can help them with theirs without causing harm to our stability

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[LadyZen]

Oh gosh. I'm going through this right now. Honestly, I've just been overloading myself with distractions. TV, chores, app games. Anything to keep my mind occupied.