Getting Older

[Wakeboarder24]

The older I get, the more lonely I feel. I miss the days when I was in school and all my friends were around. Now I feel like I have to be on my phone to talk to someone. It’s hard to arrange a meet up now. People are usually tired and busy.

[Overthought]

I feel your pain I’m 37 and I also have ended up very alone with few people to talk to that’s how I landed here on this site .

I think the loneliness has only made my over thinking worse which has in turn increased my anxiety.

I don’t know if it’s the same for you but mostly I do everything alone eat sleep and even go to the coffee shop just to tell myself that I’ve been out and done something other than work.

To be honest you can be around a lot of people all day and still feel completely alone and down and I don’t know which is worse to be honest to be actually alone or to pretend that you aren’t.

Hopefully we can find the answer here together

Peace and love to you

[LadyZen]

I use to do a lot of volunteer work with my free time. That might be something to consider.

[ladybyrd]

Loneliness is what allot of people are struggling with right now. For all different kinds of reason's, but loneliness is loneliness no matter where it comes from. Just a thought, have you tried to get a hobby, something you really would like to do. Your around others and doing something for yourself too. You can talk or not talk in a group setting at least you can get out of your head and focus on what you like to do for yourself. Your never truly alone🙏

[catsrock]

I'm guessing everyone has struggled with loneliness at some point in their lives and I think the pandemic made that so much worse and more prevalent for everyone. I'm glad you came here to post about it - it's a good group of supportive people. I second what LadyZen said about volunteering - it really helps you get out and see people. I also like tapping meditations, getting out in nature when I can, and reading. I hope you find something that helps soon.

[Midori]

When they leave school folk start to diverge, and spread out, get their own small groups around them.

Then most of them get married and spread out even further. New homes, new friends., we lose track of our old friends. I had a shock recently looking at Google Maps and found my school was no more and a totally different one was there instead, as well as a housing estate. It made me feel strange, as if my early life was being erased. Quite a shock.

It's unfortunate for those of us who stay behind, folk come and go, and if we are unable to get around much, we fall out of the picture.

I can't get around much, I walk with a wheeled walker, and am beginning to need an electric scooter thing. Not surprising, I'm 75!

I've also moved to a new area (technically a different country), but not so's you'd know it. I've made some friends here, as has my son and carer, and we are happier than in the last place where I had lived nearly 40 years. I moved to get away from the house and bad memories attached to that town.

Cheers, Midori