Hi guys. If anyone is open to sharing, I was curious to whomever has a good relationship with their older brother, what do you consider as a brother?.. rather than just any of your friends or any other person, what makes him a brother to you? What is a brother?
I am curious, as I don't know how to consider my brother sometimes. I am okay though. Just doing what I can and trying not to believe the fear I may feel, but allowing it to pass. I just want to let go of feeling like he is a stranger at times.
Thanks!
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My brother was a narcissist. He passed in September
When he was sick a few years ago I took him in and cared for him. Because he was so sick and vulnerable he was very kind and showed me a side of him I had never seen before
A year later he was well enough to move out. He went right back to his old ways. Rude, judgemental, better than everyone else.
He spent plenty of time in front of a judge due to arrests for various reasons. He was not a good man.
I've always had a good relationship with my brother who was 5 years older than me and died last year. We lived in different parts of the country but we would talk on the phone and he always had stories to tell of his music gigs and then there were the self-deprecrating ones where he did something foolish. It was sad to say goodbye but the funeral was great with a lot of songs. Instead of putting lavendar on the coffin we all put plectrums there instead.
I have two older brothers, one of whom I get along well with. The other one is the reason I have suffered from depression and anxiety most of my life. He abused me when I was 7 and has always had a holier than thou attitude. Always treated me like I was a 'stupid little sister', though I know I am not. He also has anger issues(don't know where they originated) to the point of being fired from 2 jobs. He's a retired anesthesiologist! He eventually apologized(about 8 years ago) for what he did to me as a child; I accepted, but I am still not really comfortable around him. I love him because he is my brother but do not always like him very much....
I am sorry, bethelbee that you experienced such abuse. I hear you and stand with you, understanding the trauma that remains over the decades. I'm glad that you can share the horrible experience as I expect it helps to pull the pieces back together. All kudos to you for your courage!
Thank you! I think I am more bothered by how it affected my life than what actually happened. I've always been pretty open about it. Never wanted my nieces to know. Don't know if that sil knows, but my other brother and sister in law know.
i get it. it's interesting when they are your brother, but still you don't like them nor feel comfortable around them very much. I personally just trust my gut that even tho he's my family, it doesn't mean I can trust him fully, or open up all the way. its an interesting balance to go about doin. we can do it! whatever it is!
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