My first post

[BlackTea_Collie]

So as in title this is my first time posting, but intrestingly its my first post ever even im 19. Today Was for me somewhat Ok, but i feel bad becous of emotions that are accumulated in me since panic attack I have like two weeks ago. It was caused by my father inability to understand that after he caused me very bad emotional outburst about my problems at school (teachers weren't allowing me to start this diploma project, and even my classmates said that they were unfair in it) and him telling me it's part my fault( I know I have problem with concentration, but I was doing my job and they were just convinced I'm not) so I go to my room to ceep my feelings in check. And after few seconds of my brake down here comes he all in his glory to my safe space(not that my parents help with it feeling safe, by coming to clean when I'm absent) and starts to say something about him calming me. I'm not sure what he was saying because of panick attack that started then. The inability to breath properly and fear really are no help in telling him to go out. So it ended up as more of yelling him to go out. And after finally he goes away I was able to calm myself to normal anxiety poin, which took me only like 30 minutes, and I'm proud of that fact. So I go out of my room and after some time my parents decided to tell me how I'm making bad atmosphere in home by behaviour like this, and how I destroyed everyone's evening and I should be better. To think I was wondering on therapy sessions where my problems with expressing emotions came from. And the best part about this is that my father is psychologist. I hope this post was not to chaotic and all over the place. English is not my first language and I have never written something like this before. If you have any tips how am I supposed to make this mood that iz clanching to me since then I would be grateful.

Hope you have better relationships with yours parents

[Agora1]

Welcome BlackTea_Collie to a safe and caring community.

I believe each one of us has a story regarding growing up with our

parent's guidance. It wasn't until I was older did I realize that parents

don't have a manual in raising children and usually go by their own experiences

growing up. What surprised me is that your dad is a psychologist which doesn't

necessarily mean all cases go by the book. When it's your own child, the love and

concern take priority but I still feel that he should accept your breathing space.

You certainly are in the right place to receive support and guidance from a group

of caring people. Again, Welcome new friend. We are happy to have you with

us xx

[Overthought]

Do you know I’m 37 and hearing you is like looking back at myself when I was 19 I can tell from the post just how worked up you are and I remember being right there with you to be honest even now I’m sure I could reach that level but your emotions are valid but being a parent is hard I’m one myself now and I can imagine having this with my daughter down the road.

I guess if I could talk to your parents I would urge them to be more understanding and patient.

And as I’m talking to you I would start writing these feelings down somewhere private or on here believe me just having the opportunity to talk about it will make the problems seems much smaller.

[CLB1125]

Hi welcome to the group. It is hard at your age to communicate with parents. Parents forget you’re an adult and they only see you as a child yet. I can’t tell you how to handle this situation but maybe writing your feelings down in a journal might help you to get everything off your chest and be able to calm down. And of course we are always here for support.