First post. I’m lonely and depressed

[DonutMan]

hi all, I can cope at work most days (still have a few bad days) but as soon as I get home and have nothing to do I just feel so alone and overthink everything which makes me doubt myself constantly. I’ve been hating myself a lot lately and really want to try to start liking who I am again but it been so long since I have it feels impossible.

[litethatnevergoesout]

you’ve done a good thing signing up here. there is a lot of support for you concerning that very thing which you struggle with. you’ll discover that you are not alone at all with how you are feeling. nothing is impossible.

[DonutMan in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

Thank you for the reply it means a lot

[DonutMan]

Thank you, I have started running and doing mild exercise to try and keep busy and it has helped a little it’s just hard as can’t do it everyday. I feel like there is a few things I need to change in my life before I start to try and show myself some self compassion but like with most people, change scares the hell out of me

[rubyrhythm]

I agree that change can be really scary. I'm trying to make changes, too, and I'm sometimes frozen by a fear of what I'm opening up in my life. It's like considering making a change brings me to this vast field of possibilities - and I have to repeatedly remind myself that lots of those possibilities are good ones instead of just focusing on the negative ones.

[scansnap]

DonutMan,

I certainly empathize with your situation. What you describe is not uncommon. I would suggest discussing this with a close friend or relative, or even considering psychotherapy.

In addition, there are numerous techniques to reduce anxiety, such as meditation, mindfulness, deep, breathing, and physical exercise. I would also recommend the book Feeling Great by David Burns as a good way to learn how to do cognitive behavioral therapy for yourself. This will help you with both anxiety and depression.