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Am feel alone but I try to cover it and it’s eating me up

My boyfriend just ignores me for weeks then come back and say sorry only if I call him

And when I don’t he just ignores me

Am scared of letting go because I don’t know if I can meet anyone else

I feel so alone and lonely

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AuntBee

Im sorry, he’s already let go. My firm advise, dont call him again. Of course you can meet someone else. Is it scary? Yes, but you deserve a good man in your life; a man who will want to talk to you and call you. You got this.

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Fantasticfive in reply to AuntBee

Thank you so much

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Mom_on_the_run

I agree with Aunt Bee.. Let him go..

If he is not fully invested then you don’t need him in your life..

Allowing this to continue will only cause much more anxiety to your everyday life..

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Fantasticfive in reply to Mom_on_the_run

Thank you

You can most definitely meet someone else. Someone that makes you feel appreciated and shows it. Decisions like this can be hard to make but can also be very necessary

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Am just so scared of falling in love and getting same emotional torture

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Arymretep

You deserve better than this , please don’t call him again, it’s hard but you know it’s the right thing to do, life is too short waiting for the phone to ring , you can do this you are stronger than you think

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Fantasticfive in reply to Arymretep

Thank you

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Bb62714

Im so sorry for you. These feelings are so real and to feel them alone makes it so much harder.Which part are you referring to when you say, "it's eating me up"? The silence and not sharing your true feelings of loneliness? Or the loneliness? Both?Do you specifically not want to share or feel that you can't share?

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Fantasticfive in reply to Bb62714

The loneliness The pain of loving him and not getting his love back

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Bb62714 in reply to Fantasticfive

That is really painful and hard especially at a time when you need him most. What about trying to have an open conversation with him. I'd say sharing your feeling and asking him he feels about your current relationship is a good start. Obviously keep it very open and show him you want to hear how he feels as opposed to blaming which leads to negative feelings and using causes the other person to be defensive. Tell him how much he means to you and that you live him...

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Fantasticfive in reply to Bb62714

I did and I talked to him After he ignored me for some day .. I explained I didn’t like how the relationship was going and he needed to change

He apologized

Then I told him I didn’t just want to hear sorry I needed to see the change

He never replied that text

He rather ignored d me for days until I called to check up on him

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WorkInProgress28

I think if you have to beg for your partners attention, it’s not worth holding onto the relationship. Also if they can’t understand and try and support you thru the good and the bad they’re not worth having! Sending you good vibes and a hug!

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bethelbee

You deserve to be treated better than this!! I agree with everyone else, don't call him again! He's playing you. Time to officially get rid of him! Don't torture yourself anymore. You will eventually meet someone who truly cares about you. Obviously he doesn't....

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MaggieSylvie

Of course, you can meet someone else! But first, you have to learn to be happy with your own company. Keeping this diluted relationship going is probably preventing you from extending your social life. I've been through this myself and in the end it was clear that I was being used and that there was absolutely no future for us. It's possible you already know someone else that would be much kinder to you. The best advice, and it's hard to take, is give him the cold shoulder. Without the pandemic you would, of course, be able to go to lots of parties at this time of year. Just hang on in there.

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Fantasticfive in reply to MaggieSylvie

Thank you

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