depressed and lonely

[lorianxiety]

hi people,sorry for the gloomy heading but that's the way I feel today-it started off ok and read a passage from Dr Weekes book ,then I felt that maybe I should try and get some diazepam as Easter holidays etc then my sister over the phone who is elderly ,older than me and is not the best of people to discuss mental health nor any of the other members ---eventuall I took a half of 2mg and was ok but felt shivery and started thinking what am I living for having lost my wee cat to a stroke 5weeks ago----I now have freedom to go anywhere but I just cant not even to travel 40 miles its too stressful-help advice feeling hemmed in ,between the weather and my awful feelings like im too stressed to care anymore.can anyone identify.

[Kat63]

I guess you still miss your cat and feel the loss and grief about that. And, regarding your sister - it’s true that you can’t talk to everybody about everything. I tried to talk to my best friend about my most recent problems, and she didn’t understand at all. I might as well have been speaking Chinese. Luckily, I was able to talk to another friend about it. Do you have someone else you can talk to, other than your sister?

[lorianxiety in reply to Kat63]

unfortunately no,i haven't had a any real friend ,and other 2 sisters are wotse regarding mental health-----they aren't open people and would rather belittle or criticise and they are older and set in there beliefs ect.glad you have a friend to confide in as everyone needs that type of communication.

[quitter333]

you cant be lonely if you chose lion as avatar. i already like you

[lorianxiety in reply to quitter333]

Thanks quitter,I like you too.dont worry not ready to give in yet.

[a_work_in_progress in reply to lorianxiety]

You’re not alone. There’s a lot of people here going through the same issues.

[lorianxiety in reply to a_work_in_progress]

hi ,I do appreciate that fact ,and have compassion for they'r plight and I also try and help ,but just had an off day ,which proves to me how much anxiety states can escalate and can dominate your mind that you can soon feel negative and worse .hoping your feeling good today as I am ----so far ehm!

[a_work_in_progress in reply to lorianxiety]

Hi lori Thanks For the kind words I hope your day went well. I can’t complain but anxiety was always lurking in the background today. Never reared it’s ugly head though. I’m currently looking for a good therapist to talk to in my area. I just started taking 25 mg of Zoloft every day a couple weeks ago. I’m thinking I’m probably going to have to up my dosage. And I’m trying to be mindful. That’s all I can do.

[lorianxiety in reply to a_work_in_progress]

hi im glad your anxiety stayed in the background today,hopefully it will recede /on the other hand mine threatened to flare up but succeeded in winning and not taken half of diazepam.my life for the past year has been governed by this drug as well as stress ,however I hope to push that bit harder and overcome my dependency on them(gps weaning me off them on his terms).why do you feel the need to up your dosage of Zoloft..yes,mindful is the operative term!!

[a_work_in_progress in reply to lorianxiety]

The reason I feel I’m gonna need to up my dosage is because I don’t think 25 mg just gonna do it. I think it’s a starting point and I have been on it for a couple weeks now. I know it takes some time to get in your system. I think I should take one in the morning and one at night. My anxiety crazy lately. I’m trying to find a good therapist/psychologist to try to get a handle on this.

[quitter333 in reply to lorianxiety]

How old are you?

If you feel otherwise healthy enough - I'd say trust your body and just make a leap into abyss. Travel far away, rent a boat, river house, live there for some week or a month. Go fully improv on everything, have just general idea where you are going.

Why? - because you could try to push your personal limits so far away, that returning to normal life will seem like going into environment that is extremely low on stress.

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Example of symilar psychological effect - if a person is shy they find it really hard to talk to strangers. Then said person goes to some music festival where people are absolutely free and you make and lose tons of friends in short time, find sex, love, excitement. After return, person will have lost shyness from normal calm contact, he or she was shy about before, because compared to heightened stress/pleasure in festival, normal contact now seems extremely relaxed/apathetic/calm/meaningless.

[lorianxiety in reply to quitter333]

hey the ideas you have I would imagine you have already tried yourself-right-anyway there is no chance I would be in a cabin/whatever alone by the river-Im not in the USA where there are as many lochs ect and I lack confidence to get by on a daily basis thanks for the introduction into your imaginative world im an old timer ,though quite fit for my age I certainly lack adventure.

[marheart]

Today my talk therapist gave me her usual "you have to push harder to do better, to be better."

Outlasting the resistance isn't helping the overall anxiety. Yet, I can't wrap my mind around the concept of suffering for days in order to go out and suffer while out.

She says the joy will enter my life with those changes. I've resisted for about 4 yrs. with 3 different Therapists. Have you found an answer for all of us to try to get help with the suffering?

Just one Brief helper could make someone's life turn around to a better place.

Share your best helping tool with us.

[lorianxiety in reply to marheart]

hi Marheart,do you benefit at all from therapy?if so what do get from it and what is your best tool.mine is my knowledge of mental health and my pratical/logical mind which has a tendency to be controlling .DrClaire Weeks could help her stuff is online and she is so understanding of nervous illness's.

[marheart in reply to lorianxiety]

I'm understanding my past, how it is affecting the present and a perspective of the future. Behavior health has admitted they don't know what to do with me anymore.

Mature adults don't want to suffer anymore than we are suffering now. My inner voice tells me to tell the provider to get out of the treatment manual and get real about living in a life full of moment by moment struggles.

Getting out into those environmental areas which trip the handicap patient make things worse, and are not understandable unless anyone has been there, tripped in a parking lot, struggled to get in a doorway, etc.

I'm not 100% believing that part of the program.

If forcing self to get out why aren't their success rates Much higher to improve life for us who suffer.

Following the Mindful manual, which says to force the patient to get out and do things or be stuck in home for the days which are left for all of us on this planet.

Talk Therapy is a necessary component in treatment. That I do believe is real.