I keep on asking for support 😪

[Milliewaterlilly]

Hey... Writing here helps me to process what I'm living. I admit I need a lot of support to go through what I'm going through now. I can't let go of the therapist I've been with for three months. She's a nice person, or say she's actually a good therapist, but more than once I felt we weren't a match. Lately I've felt she doesn't get me when it comes to something as serious as having extreme levels of anxiety, to the point where I've even scratched my ankles to release this extreme level of distress. Physical pain is always more manageable. I don't feel contained by her. I think she tries but I don't feel fully understood. I do feel like I'm explaining myself too much, working too much to adjust the therapeutic alliance. I told her about my extreme distress on an email and she didn't mention it in the session. She didn't bring it up. I felt invalidated.

I'm in crisis and it's super stressful to iniciate a process with someone else. I am worried that the problem is mine, not hers, and that I'm just jumping from one therapist to another. However I've done around 20 sessions with her (which I think it's quite a lot, I gave it a change, even though I'm aware I have complex issues).

I found someone else that seemed to care and understand me, but I'm worried I'll be one resistant again and quit and never make progress. How can I know?🤯

I'm currently in a very vulnerable place. I'm not working, barely no friends, no routine, doubting about everything and feeling like I no longer know who I am and what can I do. Directionless. I have some despersonalization and derealization too. I need someone to get me out of this dark place really, no therapy is not an option. How do I let go of her? Is it really a good idea to do it now?

And most importantly, what self care or therapeutic activities would you suggest to support myself in this process, so I feel less dependant on the figure of a therapist. I'm all ears.

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[Starrlight]

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[CLB1125]

I’m kinda new at this whole therapy thing. Do you journal? I don’t do it daily but when I’m really stressed I do. I figured I was supposed to write a whole page or something but my therapist said it’s mine so do what I want. So some days I just scribble my aggressions!!😱 it helps. Maybe you could make a list of the things you want to discuss with the therapist. Be sly and say so you don’t forget.

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I would suggest several approaches to your problems. First, you may wish to consider getting a new therapist. Second, you may want somebody to evaluate you for medication if you have not already done that, and if you are willing to take medication. It should be considered a temporary solution, but one that can help you get started. Next, I would get a hold of a good book on cognitive behavioral therapy and read it and do the exercises and I think that that will also help you to see things in ways that are more realistic and helpful. I recommend Feeling Great by David Burns.

[Marysblue]

Have you tried getting out and walking for 20 to 30 minutes a day ..it's a natural antidepressant and anti-anxiety and helps you sleep. Plus you get in good shape. I also keep a gratitude Journal and set aside time each day for quiet comtemplation of a spiritual nature.

[CoolWhip]

I was is the same situation as you. I had a great therapist but at times I felt that we were not on the same page but she gave me great advice and helped me so much through my journey. Unfortunately, she was relocating to another company and I would no longer be able to have her as my therapist but she made a great point by saying that at some point we outgrow our therapist and we might need to find someone that can continue our journey. In time we all make progress and get better to a degree and sometimes another persons outlook or ideologies can help further that progress. I personally never seeked out another therapist and I continued my journey on my own. I’m not suggesting do what I do but I personally think that when we aren’t dependent on another person we are able to take action and build ourselves up on our own. In my opinion if you’re not making progress with your therapist then you might have outgrown them and another therapist might be able to help you progress further.