Rejection sensitivity

[LostinSpirals]

I have been struggling with this to the extreme. My wonderful support husband is my world. I try real hard to be responsible for my own feelings but it's been harder. He has been making comments like "I don't like how that feels" I was attempting to cuddle him in bed and my chest is large and over lapped his arm. I just said "oh ok" and rolled over, doing my best to not cry. I am terrified of trying to snuggle him again and I feel like I'm avoiding intimacy. There's been a lot of comments like this, he has sensory issues so I know it's just a comment on that.

I know I need to talk to him about how I'm feeling but I don't want him to feel bad, so I'd rather suffer in silence. Although he knows I'm not ok right now so that doesn't help either. I can't answer anything but "I'm fine" because if I don't I'll crumble.

I just don't know how to be intimate without getting rejected or feeling rejected.

I also can't get my brain to quit telling me I'm disgusting. My husband is skinny and was visibly upset when he had gained in the past. He says he loves me as I am but I can't believe him, I think because I read into the rejection too much

[Marysblue]

Depression makes us very insecure. When I get out of my depression I don't have near as many insecurities.Counselor told me to say I am disappointed... or I feel... or next time can you...

Assertive talk. People do get very defensive when you try to say something about them. Try to just stick to how you feel and not what they did. I Know It's Tricky. And Im not very good at it myself.

[CLB1125]

Marys lue is right. Although I have yet to do it🙄 Dr Phil says when you say something like I didn’t like the way you….they get defensive or offended. We’re supposed to say , I felt whatever when that happened. I play it out in my head but can’t get up the nerve to say it. I totally understand about intimacy. More than once I’ve turned over and cried myself to sleep. I’m heavy too and well endowed, after a hysterectomy and all the meds I’ve given up trying to lose weight. Our weight doesn’t define us. I’m old and I’m ugly and I can’t change either so I don’t worry about it anymore. If he can’t love me for me then he can do his business in the shower!! 😳🤣 sorry I’m bad!