Lonely, tired, stuck

[ryanactive23]

I've posted on here for years (not for a while) need someone to talk to, still not closer to finding out why I feel so different, work is a struggle, my ticks and sensory issues are playing up, everything feels empty and lonely, it's all so exhausting, I guess I just wanted to hear from others

[WolfMuffin]

hi sorry to hear that. Things will get better. Try Jesus He is the answer to everything . Trust me I’ve been where you are. He is real . Just call out to Him with a sincere heart. I’m praying for you.

[Hidden]

I'm recently coming out of a period of feeling hopeless and without purpose. Ever since COVID I believe I've never been the same and I've gradually declined to a point when I felt like I didn't care if life ended. Because of those feelings, all these negative thoughts around "what's the point" were stuck in my head and that made feel even worse. As a result, I became isolated and felt lonely because I wasn't interacting with my family or friends. Everyone seemed 'normal' and I just couldn't be like them at that time so I separated myself both mentally and physically from everyone else.

I then started journalling two months ago to highlight what issues I am facing and why. With those noted down I decided I'll try something to get rid of them one by one. Key issues were the feeling of being without purpose, lacking emotion, not eating right, being lonely and the negative thoughts. My strategy was to tackle one each week and maintain it. For example I began exercising again which I previously enjoyed and had lost the interest due to not looking after myself during the final months of university this year. This made me hungry more so I ate more and because I was exercising it encouraged me to eat healthier. Along with the other issues I mentioned, these small changes together over the past month have honestly removed the negative thoughts and I feel happier. I measure the success of my strategy by the reduced frequency of negative thoughts and how productive I am. Productivity has increased with these steps and that makes me feel like I have a purpose and ultimately brings me happiness.

I'm here to talk more if you would like to. I understand what it's like to feel alone, stuck in life and feeling hopeless and because I've brought myself to a better position I'd like to help others whenever I can. There's still room for me to improve but I look forward to the time when I feel really alive again and I'm sure you will find that position too.

[ryanactive23 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for the message and what you said! Means a lot to know someone got better after feeling very similar to myself, I haven't felt good for years and I've tried so many things, I never give up but it feels stagnant now maybe journaling will be a good idea to try!

[AnxiousSilver]

"I've posted on here for years (not for a while) need someone to talk to"

My PM door is always open to you Ryan.

[dwhp]

Hi Ryanactive23, thanks for your post and reaching out. Life can seem exhausting sometimes and you have youth on your side. Make the most of it by doing things you like. Take breaks and resume your journey. Figure out what's holding you down and remove it from your life like a tumor.

i recently distanced myself from toxic people and my panic attacks gone away. it took me nearly 30 plus years to figure out what's wrong with me. Just like a diet, we need to refresh our surroundings, our support structure, and re-config our lives.

Hope you thrive!

[ryanactive23 in reply to dwhp]

Hi! Thanks for the positive response, yes hopefully I can find out ways to improve things and get better I'm sure I will

[dwhp]

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[Trainchaser]

Can relate to being different. Work also a struggle. Dealing with anxiety and depression forever wondering if it will ever stop

[ryanactive23 in reply to Trainchaser]

Definitely how I feel, at one point I was in and out of feeling back to "normal" now it's always the same, I've done everything to try and feel better

[Trainchaser in reply to ryanactive23]

How are you doing today? I am doing okay Got a good night's sleep

[ryanactive23 in reply to Trainchaser]

I'm okay thanks not too bad for now, glad you got to sleep okay