Why are people so concerned about "procreate"? I'm alive and i hate every second of it. We aren't polar bears. Which are really going extinct. Nature has life/death balance. The more births, the more deaths and vice versa. You have seen the baby booms after wars and pandemics. Muslims are more homophobic even than christians. I posted a story of two indian girls getting married. Before that i sent a cute reel to my muslim friend. He didn't care about the cute reel that i INTENDED for him but was fast to say "did gay parents give birth to them?". Stop that "procreate" shit. Reproduction is litterary the dumbest reason to hate on queer people. India is the 1st or 2nd most populated country, I'm sure that if two girls get married, Indians won't go extinct. Also being queer doesn't mean you're sterile. You can get pregnant in-vitro or adopt a child or be bisexual or pansexual. Being queer isn't only being gay/lesbian. There are asexuals for example. Everyone forgets about asexuals. They're not attracted to anyone but can have children. Also other genders isn't only trans, there's also non-binary, agender, intersex and so. Also this is not something you chose, it's biochemistry and genetics. F*ck it I'm a goddamn ace-bi enby person, idk how ull take it but im blinded rn, burn me on the stake, kill me with stones. I have a bachelor's degree on humanitarian science and psychology but apparently some people who can't even write a coherent sentence to express their homophobia, think they know more than me. We, psychologists call this the Dunning-Crueger effect. But im too frustrated to argue and i don't want to hurt his feelings by calling him a medieval bigot. I'm so full of emotions that i will start crying if i start arguing. I'm going to explode from emotions. I used to be in love with a north African when i first found out mom's drinking and mental issues and dad's baby. He broke me just because of those goddamn believes and misogyny and said he's getting 4 wives while i was crying and telling him i love him and my family is falling apart. But he was continuing "you can't have kids". I CAN'T HAVE KIDS because I'm MENTALLY SCREWED not because im vaguely bisexual. I don't want kids because I want to protect them from myself. I don't want to be the psycho parent they're scared of because i know what it's like to have a psycho parent you're scared of. And this shiz is genetic. My friend left me to go see her boyfriend. She doesn't give a damn about me anymore. She just wants to have 3 children and i guess she wasn't paying attention at class when the medicine teacher said an antipsychotic might be dangerous during pregnancy. She's taking five. Sometimes the best thing for someone is to not bring them into existence. Before my exam i texted my friend who's litterary disabled by abusing weed and schizophrenia and broken bones from a failed suicide attempt to say im worried about my exam. He texted me "You're pathetic". Then i went and took my exam with the proffesor handshaking me.
So much pain. I'm sorry but hate only breeds hate. Tommorow is my EMDR session, hope this helps. And if you hate me, dw i hate myself more.
If my dad accepted he's actually gay which we all know but he is in denial, he wouldn't leave his wife to marry a tomboy and wouldn't impregnate the Tomboy leading to altering my brain chemistry to the point I'm unable to work and i just graduated. I have no health insurance. I have no bus card. I don't exist to society. It's a social murder. If he cuts child support, which will occur by one year, i will die homeless because I'm fast to light the fuse and get triggered and can't work anything i guess.
I edited because i did spelling mistakes out of rage.
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That's a lot to unpack. I also don't understand why some people are so concerned about others' procreation. It's no one else's business. Nor so I understand the fear and hatred of the LGBTQIA+ and those who support them. But so many of your generation are more tolerant and more willing to live openly and fluidly that I have hope that things will get better after the people of my generation die out.
You're right that hate breeds hate. And it's hard not to hate the people promulgating the biases against those they see as "Other" those we see as having done us harm. but doing so only perpetuates the cycle.
I love the way you now can write "we psychologists"! I'm still over the moon about how stellarly you performed on your exam!!!
I hope your EDMR session proves useful. I imagine it will take several sessions before you know if it will help you. You write "I'm fast to light the fuse and get triggered and can't work anything i guess" and all that may be true, but, just as I had faith in how well you would do on your test, so I have faith in your ability to come to grips with your trauma and to find ways to control your temper and your fears and to be able to hold down a steady job. Getting that *A* shows how strong your mind is. You'll be going with your grandmother to a place where you will get some help and support; take advantage of everything that facility has to offer. Try every suggestion they give you with an open mind and a willingness to persevere. Change, even for the better, can be frightening because it is unknown (and most of us prefer the devils we know), but I believe in you and your determination.
Thank you, Ruth. It's so heartwarming how you care about me and are proud of me. And you know me so well. You were absolutely right i was wired to achieve academic success. And my emdr...i didn't feel anything at all. Weird
I do care about you and am looking forward to seeing where you go in life. And I am still so immensely happy about your test. It's the best news I've heard in a long time. It makes my heart dance for you.
I guess it's not so weird that you didn't feel anything with the EMDR. Not only are you tired and coming down from the adrenalin of your test time, you are doing it with a therapist who has not earned your trust. For some reason I thought you'd be trying the technique with someone new and I was hopeful that would produce better results. Sigh. I hope you'll try it a few more times to see if it kicks in. If it doesn't, that will be disappointing, but I will suspect that the lack of success might be due to your therapist. But I will keep a good thought that it might provide some relief.
I liked many things you said above. Although I am a sis-gendered woman, my son is gay, and he has been studying sexuality at the University to go into counseling for LBGTQAI+ people in the U.S. community. When he has his friends over, I meet many people of many different types of genders, all of whom I enjoy talking with about various topics.
Above, you said, "Everyone forgets about asexuals. They're not attracted to anyone but can have children. Also, other genders isn't only trans, there's also non-binary, agender, intersex and so. Also, this is not something you chose, it's biochemistry and genetics." Regarding the last sentence, I fully agree, as I think it is genetics! There are many cases where human babies are born with sexual organs of both sexes, and doctors, along with parents, have to decide what to do. We also find homosexuality in the animal kingdom. If more people understood these concepts, there would be more open-mindedness toward queer people worldwide. If differences in sexuality are genetic, then it is similar to having different skin or hair colors, which are also hereditary.
You also said above, "F*ck it I'm a goddamn ace-bi enby person." Please tell me what this means. I understand the "bi" part as bi-sexual, but what is "ace" and "enby?" Thanks!
Thank you. Wish there were more people like you. Enby is non-binary and ace is asexual. It's a really fluid thing so labeling is complex. I just graduated psychology and in year 1 we studied medicine and genetics and lgbt was there. You explained it so well. Greetings to your son from a fellow queer person 💜
I was meant to ask the same question; thank you for the explanation. I hope people can stop being fussed about gender identity and fluidity. We are many people throughout our lives: children, parents, winners, losers, professional workers, unemployed, volunteers, students, teachers…often at the same time. Why can't it be the same for our sexuality/ies?
Yeah, especially when your parents messed up what a couple looks like, meds are messing up ur hormones and you just don't feel like anything known to humankind
I think in the future, the world will understand and recognize more fluidity in human sexuality. Until then, I believe young people need just to be who they are and speak their truths. 💜💗
Good for you for studying this area of Psychology; hopefully, it settles some of your own questions so that you can now help others with these issues. In the U.S., there is a real need for counselors in this area of training. So, in parts of the U.S., a counselor can make a good living.
Oh. I thought about moving and that im not happy here but i can't even move accomodations in the same city what comes to continents? I just feel so frightened and powerless and tired
Well, didn't you just graduate with a degree in psychology? Can you find work in the field that you are passionate about? If you do, then you might have enough money to find an apartment and eventually be able to travel some—one step at a time to gain power and freedom. "Good Luck" and "God Speed," my young friend! 👍
Thank you. Apparently studying this was the good part, working it is the bad. Can't be a consultant without finishing a course and still looking for another position but maybe they won't hire me being unstable at such position.
First, finish your last courses to be employable. Then is it not your desire to prove yourself stable in a counseling position so that you can do a job you are passionate about? Once there, then you can help others understand themselves with your insights. We change the world one person at a time. This may be what you are called to do with your life; who knows? Go forward the best you can!
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