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I don't know why people just say things that are so dumb. I was extremely frustrated with an "acquaintance" today at work. He just asked how old I was, I said "yeah I look younger I get that alot" But then it just goes to hell from there, with him saying no its just no offense but you're really short. I acted passive aggressive and basically explained how sick and tired of hearing that I was over the years. He just starts speaking less and I feel psycho once again, also I felt bad, but I quickly let it go realizing he was never going to give a crap anyways. He just made me feel worse saying "yeah being short sucks has its advantages, dont know what they are but it does." What kind of crap is that?

Its just I know im pretty short, but I hate when people infer that I am shorter than my actual height, makes me feel even more pathetic, with people even being surprised that im 5 ft 3 in the past.

I just wish I didn't care, but I am really starting to realize why I dislike certain people so much and why I close myself off.

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I dont want it to be something I joke about. It shouldnt be something I joke about anyways.

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I just can't let certain things like that slide, especially when there is no reason to mention it.

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Its just me making that all up, its just I hate how society is, they really expect me to joke about height, which shouldn't be an issue in the first place, to just laugh that off? I just hate how its fine to be tall if your a man, but if you're short you're either the butt of jokes, or you should just laugh along. I shouldn't let it get to me, yeah, but I am not going to act like this should be the norm.

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*ita not

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Im sorry that im responding with an underlying angry tone, I know that you're just offering advice.

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Goodnight. I will just have to ignore it then, as I know people who could care less about it.

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Ill just focus on the positive peoole and ignore the negative.

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I dont have to accept something thats flawed and wrong in so many levels, I really hope thia isnt how everyone is. Im sure theres some sane people out there.

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This is the original poster, I just deleted my account as this is doing me any good, but I had to say what I wanted to say. I love my height, I am just saying people don't have to point it out in a negative light. Im not getting upset about that alot, not anymore and I am proud of that. Its just once in a while like yesterday now. I will move on with my progress, I am confident about my height for the most part, just get angry when others try to put others down. Well anyways farewell.

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I accept myself 100 percent always have I don't accept ignorance that should not exist, and I never will.

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Its not the way things are, at least it doesn't have to be. People focus on fighting for the wrong things nowadays.

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Oops I seem to have started off a tirade so will delete my respnses. I apologise if I have upset you, it wasn't intentional.

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No you honestly didn't. I just talk alot, I like to express myself and this wasnt the best way.

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I just find texting its harder for people to understand exactly what I mean. Everything I said was meant to be in a calm manner. I just really do like to talk about every little thing.

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Don’t stay around people who hurt your feelings or disrespect you. Closing yourself is one thing that you eventually have to keep as a « primary shell » Opening yourself to the right people is another thing. Growing up is about sorting bad elements out of your life. Not everyone is an asshole. But a lot of people are. Stay strong and proud of who you are.

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You have a right to be annoyed, especially handling this often enough to be annoyed, but maybe practice having a nice sentiment in response, "Yeah, I'm (this age) and this tall...and everything is all good. Life is great." It could possibly help just to end the conversation where it is and offer no fodder to such a negative person. While I am 5' 8", I'm technically short as well...I know it's closer to average, but I played hockey at a high level where the average height was more like 6'...or taller. You know one thing people don't realize about short people? We have a much better center of gravity. Look at figure skaters, gymnasts, and so on....they do amazing things because the center of gravity is lower. You have a tall person do that, and it looks like a buffoonish mascot attempting it. I was harder to push off the puck because I was built like a brick wall (in my day...now I'm more like a hill, LOL). Height didn't matter.

It's normal to be disgusted, annoyed, and so on about the perceptions people have of you. Above else, it really shouldn't matter. Everyone is unique...tall, short, fat, skinny, muscular, skin tone....on and on and on. It sounds like this person felt stupid...and then made it worse. These are thoughts that most people probably don't verbalize or perhaps don't realize can be felt by another as hurtful. It doesn't excuse them, but I would definitely suggest just letting it fall by the wayside if and where you can. The thing with physical attributes is we, mostly, can't do anything about them. It's why bringing them up is rude, stupid, and pointless. Maybe an answer would be, "Well, I tried to get to 6'2", but I stopped here...so...there ya go." Then move on in the conversation if there is any further dialogue.

Hypercat has some good suggestions in that trying on some thicker skin or just laughing it off are good deflection tactics. Maybe write down some things about yourself that make you unique and confident. Read them and believe them, because they are facts. Being short may not allow you to reach the highest shelves in a 12 foot room or dunk a basketball, but it doesn't mean you're incapable. And you know that. I think you're tired of the same situation with the same comments. A script of practiced words for action might really be a good way to take the comment and snuff it out if you don't want to joke about it. Coming from one to another in terms of the "short" stuff, it's just easier to be okay with who you are and just dismiss the haters. And you said it best...take the positive people and shed the negative. You don't have to pay his comment any attention as, truly, it deserves none. You are as human and normal as they are and deserve the same respect.

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I'm 6'2 and female. I get sick of You're so tall, or How tall are you? My sister ( also tall) and I were once in an elevator with two nurses who came up with Wow, you guys are so tall. With a straight face I responded Really? I never noticed that. Did you ever notice that _______? She answered Wow! No! Those two couldn't wait to get out at the next floor.

My closest friends have always been @5'2". We turn a lot of heads when we're together. I get your annoyance. Some days it just gets beyond old.

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