someone please reassure me

[Danzdanz123]

I really need reassurance, it’s like almost nothing can help me I have a short period of time of feeling less anxious and then I get this overwhelming feeling like life is too unbareable every waking moment this is definitely the worse I’ve had them I can’t even explain how distressing the feeling is, it’s so bad it feels like my head neck and heart are gunna pop even researching about the panic makes the panic come on where as before it use to relieve me, I think to be honest maybe I’m experiencing depression at the same time not wanting to go any further because I can’t imagine life without my gran and then going straight into panic mode because I want to live. The existential dread kicks in don’t understand how we are here I’m so hyper aware it’s really distressing how do I forget this thought or how do I make peace with it there’s nothing that seems to be comforting me.

[Wakeboarder24]

85% of what we worry about, doesn’t come to fruition.

[b1b1b1 in reply to Wakeboarder24]

You make a very good point. I bet the percentage could even be somewhat higher. Even knowing this, though, it is still so hard to stop worrying about so many things. x

[Wakeboarder24 in reply to b1b1b1]

been there

[Danzdanz123 in reply to Wakeboarder24]

thank you it just feels so intense and really and I can’t escape it and when I accept it it feels unbareable! X

[Wakeboarder24 in reply to Danzdanz123]

try taking deep breathes

[Artistfriend]

I'm sorry you're struggling, i know this doesn't sound like much but the more you can accept what you're feeling without judgement or worry the better. I know it's hard as heck but you have to believe you're actually fine, there's nothing wrong with you, it's just anxiety

[Danzdanz123 in reply to Artistfriend]

thank you it’s the worst I’ve ever felt life feels weird and very scary the pure fact we exist petrifies me it’s really hard to shake off

[Tealpillow in reply to Danzdanz123]

I remember my 6th grade teacher asking us “where were you before you were born?” And that one question has haunted me ever since. I don’t know the answer but it’s very unsettling to think about. It felt like a security blanket being pulled out from under my feet. I will say the fear has gradually lifted and I’ve become accepting that death is part of the cycle of life. If you like to read, you may get a LOT out of Thich Nhat Hanh books (he was buddhist) and his book “On Death and Dying” helped me become more accepting. All of his books are incredible.

Hugs, friend. We are in this together.

[Danzdanz123 in reply to Tealpillow]

thank you maybe I should read i think my first step is understanding that this is just anxiety and nothing else!

[Danzdanz123 in reply to Tealpillow]

I remember getting a few thoughts like this when I a was a kid and it made me feel weird but it just passed I didn’t latch onto like I have now! Must have been horrible for you to experience that kind of fear at such a young age! Xxx

[Tealpillow in reply to Danzdanz123]

Yes, very scary. And I wasn’t raised in a religious household so these thoughts can get dark. The thing is, we are all going to experience it together - life and death. We are all connected by our humanity - that’s why in life I focus on helping others as much as I can. I want to leave this place better than I found it - and that’s how I accept it.

I’m wishing you peace and comfort

[ElephantsHear in reply to Tealpillow]

That’s an interesting question your teacher posed, but I think in 6th grade the ? would have made me fearful too.

[Artistfriend in reply to Danzdanz123]

I understand what youre saying, im sure those feelings are natural as we get older but when it gets mixed in with anxiety it becomes something else. I know what you mean feeling like reality itself is scary, its literally only an anxious symptom/sensation, i have those fears also. I really believe that any smptom gets easier as you get used it and recognize it

[designguy]

It could be that you are dealing with grief over the loss of your gran and could benefit from working with a grief therapist to help you get in touch with it and process it. The first time we experience deep grief over a loss can feel overwhelming and disconcerting so having someone help you through it could really help.

[Montana136]

Hi Danzdanz, I just spent 4 months having severe anxiety every morning. turns out I needed to clear my conscience I needed to vent I needed to say something very important to somebody that I had been putting off for a very long time because I'm afraid of confrontation. I was reading a lot about anxiety because I was experiencing it and having anxiety attacks, not panic attacks but frequent many little anxiety attacks every morning. In my reading I came across a piece of information that told me the harder I tried to push thoughts out of my head the harder the thoughts tried to stay. And I do find some truth to that. It's so very difficult to stop thinking sometimes. I relate to you I hear you. I had to go through it I had to let the thoughts just come through my mind and let them pass right out again. And repeat. Sometimes just going through it breathing deep slow controlled breathing and talking logic to yourself and telling yourself to just allow the thoughts to come through and then leave. I did that exercise for days and days and days and finally I felt some relief. If you like those thoughts come through pretty soon you'll be able to give yourself permission to relax for an hour and not have an anxiety thought. You give yourself permission to feel it go through it and then give yourself permission to take a break from anxiety for an hour or 5 minutes if that's all you can get. That's a little bit about what I did to help myself I hope it helps you. Be well take care

montana

[Agora1 in reply to Montana136]

Great advice Montana136 xx

[Montana136 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks Agora1. You're a very supportive person. I like that. Have a good day be wellMontana

[Danzdanz123 in reply to Montana136]

thank you ❤️‍🩹