Thoughts...

Why people are so rude. Why can't they understand that everyone is going through something in their life rather than showing kindness why they speak so bitter.

[Stippler]

I am sorry you are having to deal with this. When I was a boy, I asked my Dad that same question. He told me it was just human nature and that I should try not to take it personal. What rude people say about you actually says more about them than you. Sending positive energy to you because you deserve it. 🙏🙏🙏

[Hidden in reply to Stippler]

Thank you Stippler, it means so much for me ❤️

[fauxartist]

I think that's a complex question for a few reasons. Maybe they are just having a crap day and are projecting that. Maybe they are just are jerks. Maybe they too have mental illness and are just not able to show any empathy and decorum. Just remember it usually has nothing to do with you or who you are....society in general has seemed to have lost all filters and decorum, compassion, and empathy, and they have become very self revolved locked onto their cell phones in a fantasy world, barely looking up to see where they are walking.

So even though it does hurt feelings when you get caught in that rudeness...it's not about you, its about their loss of humanity. But it still hurts and I'm sorry you got hurt.

[Hidden in reply to fauxartist]

Yes you're right ,It's not about us, it's literally more about them. I can understand that they also may be suffering from something but being kind is what huminity stands for. It really hurts when we get hate for no reason. I overthink it again and again like why he/she behaved so with me. What was my fault and so on.

[Tealpillow in reply to Hidden]

I’m the exact same way! My brain literally cannot understand why people are not kind/empathetic. I know those people exist because I’m married to one and constantly have to remind him to put himself in other people’s shoes. It’s hard since we’ve been together 16 years, but I still call him out LOL.

But I hear you 100% We are all human and connected to one another.

There’s a poem about human connection by John Donne called “No man is an island”. The most impactful line is “every man’s death diminishes me because I am involved in mankind”.

[fauxartist in reply to Hidden]

I ruminate too...and have to catch myself...and sometimes literally say 'stop' in my head, then I realistically evaluate the situation....if it's a stranger.... I'll never see them again so I don't care...if it's from someone I know, then I'd ask them why or what was the intention of what they said as it hurt my feelings, and if they don't care or get overly defensive, then it's time to re-evaluate if I want them as a friend. People are really more wrapped up in their own stuff to really care about other casual relationships or strangers, and there are always going to be some 'A--h---s' out there....so,... it isn't always about us..it's about them.

[ElephantsHear]

Your comment is very insightful; you mention that you overthink things and question what you might have done to illicit the hurtful response. Once I said out loud, “I wish I wasn’t so sensitive. I really wish I was tougher” and someone said, “I’m glad God made you that way- it’s part of who you are”. Something about what she said made me feel better. I’m glad God made you the way you are…

[Hidden in reply to ElephantsHear]

I also want to be rough but I feel other person may get hurt. So I also be soft and gentle with everyone, still there are many people who hurt me intentionally and they find it funny and cool. But yes as you said, I sld be proud they way God made me

[Wakeboarder24]

it’s understandably frustrating