Just feeling a bit low today after being out in the world and seeing all the families enjyoying their moms/grandmas. I know that's not everyone for sure, but I have a hard time on the holidays and my loneliness always kicks in. Don't want to go into a lot of detail, but I have a daughter and granddaughter who live within driving distance, but there's lots of drama there right now, so not an option for a visit. I'm married to someone with children, but I'm never counted as a "mom" to them, even though I've been in their lives for 25 years. Just feeling sad (on top of the depression/anxiety I'm feeling).....I know this, too, shall pass......just needed to get it out of me and let it float out into the wind. Thanks for being there!!
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Hi, you’re definitely not alone. I have children and grandchildren that I won’t be with tomorrow too. They’re in other states right now.. My husband is also pretty ill at the moment which is causing me so much anxiety and depression that I am barely functioning. We’re in our mid seventies and our health pretty much stinks right now. Both immunocompromised so our life the past three years because of Covid has been very difficult. The thought keeps ruminating in my head that this may be the last Mothers Day that we’re around. I’ve stopped writing this post several times because I know others are suffering more than me, but I guess like you I just felt I needed to just needed to float it out there. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. Sending a virtual hug.
May I just interject here..you said there are times you have stopped posting because 'others are suffering worse'. While that may or not be so doesn't make your issues any less important. We all need validation of our feelings and are here for support of each other. Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time...
I'm so sorry life is so hard for you and your husband right now....and this is definitely the place you can say whatever is in your heart. We've been given this space for just that purpose (thank you, thank you), so don't hesitate to share. I'm often surprised by how many people respond to what I write....so much of the time I feel alone in my feelings and think I'm the only one, and then I hear from others that they can relate. These sites are sort of odd in the sense that we don't know each other, but because we can share so deeply, we may know each other better than we do the people closest to us. I'm also reminded that Mother's Day is a man-made holiday, and has become another way for businesses to cash in. It's hard not to get caught up in the hoopla around it, but you know, it's just another day. There will be days ahead when we can spend time with our children and grandchildren that will be much more meaningful than what we might have had today in this day of Great Expectations. Sending love and hugs.....
Mothers day is the hardest holiday of all for me, and has been since my mom died in 2014. I understand how crappy it feels to see people celebrating. Thinking of you ❤️
Thanks so much.....I understand. My mom is gone, too, along with all the family gatherings we used to have to share with her. Loss....it comes in so many forms. As I struggle with my depression/anxiety, I've taken up crocheting again after many years, and my mom is the one who taught me. So whenever I work on it, I say a little "thank you" to her.....who knew she'd be helping me in this way so many years since she's been gone? Blessings to you.....
Hi, just wanted to express that I feel awful for you. I lost my mother to Alzheimer's a few years ago and I get a little bummed this day every year. (I always make sure to spend time with my dad this day). But I've always felt like mothers day and Christmas are family holidays. You stow whatever family bullsh!t is going on for the day and spend some time together. I'm sorry that those in your life can't do the same. We don't always see eye to eye with our parents, but barring abuse or neglect, you owe them those couple of days. Sorry for the rant, just wanted to let you know I feel for you.
Thanks so much for sharing.....loss is so much part of life, and yet we don't seem to have good ways in our society to support each other through it. This space is such a gift to us all.....to know we're not alone.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Like others have said, you aren't the only one in that situation with your children. I am feeling blue today, also, because my husband is in the hospital waiting to undergo a heart procedure tomorrow. He has been in the hospital a week. I have two adult sons who had every intention of coming up to support me, but they are both sick and don't want to pass anything on to me. So, I am by myself on mother's day morning. Please do something to pamper yourself, and I hope you feel better tomorrow.
I'm so sorry for your situation....and I hope your husband's surgery goes well. There are times we have to find the strength to go through difficult times alone. My husband will be having shoulder surgery next week (not nearly as scary as a heart procedure), but I'll be alone as well, and I feel a lot of anxiety about his recovery (no use of his right arm for 6 weeks). I'm doing my best to stay in today.....that's all we have really. And it's so important to find ways of self-care. Thanks for your support....you've got mine as well!
It's not an easy holiday for me either. I'm going to go to the store and treat myself to something. Then pick me up a nice meal to go.Do what you can to get through it. And know there are others that don't enjoy it either.
I'm feeling down to the past few days. I was blessed with spending time with my son so that should be enough right? First holidays living by myself though after being in a 10yr relationship, married for 5 yrs. Not sure if that's part of my funk, but yes this to shall pass🙏🙏🙏 Prayers for all that are struggling today
It is a mix for me. My mom is 81 and there have been many times we really got along. She doesn't like me much anymore. We love each other. I am bringing her some flowers to plant in her garden.
Hi Wooly. I understand your pain. I know a lot of women who also feel grief over moments they wish had happened that never materialized. So many of us have anxiety over our "Mother" issues, we all have one. My mom died of Alzheimer's disease 10 years ago. I miss her. I've noticed that as years go buy, I've forgotten a lot of the unhappy times. I've chosen the memories I want to keep and think about those memories that were happy or loving, and let the other memories fade. It is a process that takes time. I wish for you great peace and self-love.
Thank you so much....loss is so much part of life, none of us are spared the sadness and grief that go with it. I appreciate your understanding and support. Blessings to you
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