Breakup Blues

[LUVATX]

I hate to be that girl, but today I'm going to "claim it" and hope someone out there can just be a friend.

My friend of 20 years started messing with my head about 3 months ago. It started innocently enough then escalated to us planning a future together which included kids, etc. I had my apprehensions regarding going from a friendship to a relationship. He encouraged me to see how great we can be together especially after watching our past failed relationships. I was excited but nervous. However, the moment he asked for me to send him pictures of myself about 2 weeks ago, things changed. He no longer consistantly called or texted. The excuse being he's too busy. Mind you we were 19 when we met...I've had 2 kids since then. Yes, I'm not a size 2 but an 8 can change a friendship so quickly? I've asked myself, was he ever a friend? Did he ever genuinely care for me or was I just another conquest among many others, some of which happen to be my friends. I feel stupid, duped, depressed and angry at myself. The worst part is that I ended our friendship and phoney relationship yesterday and I'm still hoping he calls but I know better. I keep telling myself to be strong and love me for me but it's hard. Any kind words or encouragement is deeply appreciated. Thanks for reading my ramblings!

[Hidden]

Hi luvatx, we are all friends here and we all support each other.

I’m so sorry that you had to experience that. Maybe there is something going on in his life that he is not telling you and that’s why he’s always busy. But if he is just lying then he doesn’t deserve you. Go and find someone that will love you for who you are.

If you ever need a friend or someone to talk too feel free to pm me. Hope this works out for you. ❤️

[LUVATX in reply to Hidden]

Thank you!

[writingforjoy]

Luvatx, I am so sorry you have been hurt!

Honestly, if it is because of your picture then please count this as a blessing to see how shallow this 'friend' is.

I use that term loosely. Your friends are to build you up and inspire, to encourage and be there. If He truly is turning you away, then it sounds as if you have been saved greater heartache.

You have been wonderfully created. Your identity and worth do not come from a man, but on the truth that you have a purpose, hope and a future for your life and the right people will be there that you need in the right seasons.

I pray that you have a new revelation of how valuable and worthy of love you are. God of the whole universe said, " I need her to be born!"

How awesome is that?!

(hugs)

[LUVATX in reply to writingforjoy]

This is seriously one of the best responses I have heard in a while. Thank you so much. I am blessed to have found this site. Have a great Wednesday. Hugs!

[writingforjoy in reply to LUVATX]

I am so glad you have been blessed. It is all true and I pray you have a wonderful rest of your week!