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I am in desperate need of emotional and mental support. I am not making any changes in trying to get out of my depression I just feel I’m in survival mode trying to get thru day while avoiding major and necessary tasks like work stuff, laundry, cleaning and eating right.

can anyone recommend a good outpatient facility that can help me?

I feel like I’m drowning with no friends to support me or family since they’re toxic themselves; but love them.

what to do? Maybe I love being miserable

Any outpatient facilities in nyc or Brooklyn I can stay at that are helpful ?

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Agora1

Nobody enjoys being miserable dear. I think you are at a crossroads right now

and need to get help asap. When we are nonfunctional both mentally and physically,

it's time to get help before we are carried in. Unfortunately, I am not from your

area and don't have any recommendations. However, this is just a thought that maybe

inpatient may be the way to go. Large teaching hospitals have Medical/Psych wards

that can address the total body and spirit. If you are able to get into one of these

facilities, I would also suggest you just work on yourself. No visitors, no phone calls

needed. The support you will need is on that floor 24/7. Whatever you decide, I

wish you well. Our mental health deserves highest priority. :) xx

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Agora1

thank you agora! I guess I’m scared to enter inpatient teaching hospitals. I’ve done research but haven’t found a place in nyc that has great ratings. I wish I knew someone who was inpatient in Nyc and came out better. I’m pretty nonfunctional and you’re right I feel already carried in to the depths of despair. Maybe I’ll find a place in the summer

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Agora1 in reply to reinventingmyself36

Keep searching in what fits you best be it inpatient or out..

I wish you the best. Please keep us updated on your progress.

Never give up your search :) xx

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Agora1

your so compassionate! Thank you. For now I don’t wanna even leave my house unless for work. I will

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Agora1 in reply to reinventingmyself36

:) xx

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rubyrhythm

My therapist recently retired. Your post has inspired me to reach out and try to find someone that's a good fit to start again. Thank you and I wish you the best.

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to rubyrhythm

I never thought I could inspire someone .. I’m glad I helped

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Tealpillow

You should feel so proud of yourself for reaching out and knowing what you need. I’m in AZ so I don’t know of an outpatient facility in your area however, if you can afford it, I encourage you to look into inpatient treatment - it changed my life. For the first time I hung out with people like me. Who understood what I was going through. It’s the one place I felt like I could be honest with people about my real feelings. We had group therapy and spent free time coloring, doing yoga, making art, and relaxing. I mean, inside we’re all a jumbled mess, but it was nice having that camaraderie. We lovingly called it the Nut Hut.

What surprised me the most was how freaking regular everyone looked. I would never think these folks have mental issues. It’s not like insane asylums of the past - it’s more like a camp.

Anyways, apologies for rambling. I had forgotten about that experience and just kept typing. 😆

Outpatient treatment is an EXCELLENT place to start. Findhelp.org has great resources: findhelp.org/health/outpati...

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Tealpillow

Hi Tealpillow,

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I’m glad to hear that inpatient worked for you so well. It makes me want to go. I just don’t know which in patient facility to choose. I would love such an experience of ppl understanding yup and not looking like they have a mental illness and having fun. How long did u stay? I think inpatient would be best for me. Is it kept confidential from employers?

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Tealpillow in reply to reinventingmyself36

Definitely, your health is private so if you have vacation time saved up, just say you are on vacation. Or you can use FMLA to take some extra time off (if that’s an option) I was only there for 3 days but I wish I could’ve stayed a little longer. HealthInsurance will know you are there but no one can tell your employer. The nurses and staff were so kind (and they adjusted my meds) - plus you don’t have to cook or clean which alone are a relief.

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Tealpillow

sounds great. You benefited from 3 days. I feel like I need longer. I think I need in patient since I’m so lonely I barely do anything and barely can function at work or at home. I have my family but no real friends anymore. Thanks again. I’m doing research for places in Nyc and Brooklyn and scared that I will choose wrong place.

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Tealpillow in reply to reinventingmyself36

I hear that. I wasn’t able to choose where o went - the hospital just sent me there and I was so scared at first but quickly felt welcomed.

Im sorry you are feeling this way, I’ve been there, and luckily there is help for us. I hope you find some relief.

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Tealpillow

thank you

idk where to go but thank you for sharing your experience

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Tealpillow

how are you doing reinventing36? Any luck finding a place that can give you the support you need?

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Tealpillow

Hi Teal,

You’re so sweet for checking in on me. How are you doing? No I haven’t been working a lot but I do have a therapist and I am on a new mood disorder pill trileptal which is helping me stabilize my mood. I feel like I need to find sleep medicine or something else that will help me sleep so I don’t feel like going to inpatient or outpatient care.

Thanks again! I’m kinda lazy and not sure where to go

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Tealpillow in reply to reinventingmyself36

That is completely understandable and there really is no “right answer” for everyone. Just know those facilities are there in the off chance you ever need one :)

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Tealpillow

thanks! I might need one. Hope your doing well

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Tealpillow in reply to reinventingmyself36

Well, no crying spells out of the blue this morning so hopefully I can maintain that throughout the day. :)

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Lazy_dog_lover

I can't tell you what is near you, but I can recommend speaking with a person who has helped me out. On FB, look up Chris Goode. He has been focusing on relationships lately, but is flexible.

My hospital network also ran an online group, so check with your primary doctor's offce. They did CBT, which is good if you are willing to do the checklist.

If you need ideas in the meantime, let me know.

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Lazy_dog_lover

oh your so sweet! I’m glad he’s helping you. He’s great at that. I will look into hospitals running online groups.

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Greendeco13

hi - I know it’s hard but try and reach out for help. I had inpatient treatment (in 2009) for anxiety and double depression and it was one of the best things I ever did.

Be open and honest about how you’re feeling, there is support out there. Never be ashamed, this is who you are. It is an illness like any other.

Keep telling yourself this will pass, it will.

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reinventingmyself36 in reply to Greendeco13

how was your experience there? What was day to day like? I will try . Thank you. You’re so caring and sweet.

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