Most of the apartments trigger me, especially the cheaper ones and the ones in different neighborhoods. Dad called me and told me he's asking friends. The last time he asked friends i was in my previous accommodation and was kicked out. Appartments that don't trigger me are probably too expensive for him. He can't understand my anxiety and that im not okay.I was looking at articles about the market at apartments. It drives me crazy. I can't study, i can't rest, i can't function. The war, the inflation, the trying to get into using euro instead of bulgarian currency is ruining me. I want to buy the appartment in my street but i need to graduate and get a job. I can't explain to dad i can't move out now, get used to a new neighbourhood, move all my stuff and study. He doesn't understand.
I even had a nightmare my parents were divorcing and mom told me nothing will be in my heritage. All the apartments were for dad's new kid. My grandmother was dying and sold the house i grew up in for a really small sum. The supermarket i was shopping in closed. Can't nobody understand it's not simple for me? I can't live everywhere. And brokers call me in the morning and manipulate me and OVERWHELM me and crush my soul. Moving out is too much anxiety. I need to tell him i will postpone it till my exam. Even healthy people struggle, what comes to me. I want to be put in the mental hospital but it's Bulgaria. F u Bulgaria
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When is your exam? Asking your dad to let you wait until you've finished school seem like a reasonable request, but then don't keep telling him how miserable you are in your current location. If you've told your dad about how your landlord is using you as a servant and how you don't have access to a kitchen and how unhappy you are, it's not surprising that he is eager to help you move as soon as possible.
What exactly is it about all these apartments that upsets you? Perhaps a better question is "What do you need in an apartment?" Can you make a list of what you absolutely must have with a clear explanation of *why* you need those things to give your dad? He'll need more information than "these things trigger me." Give him specific reasons that will make sense to him. For example, "I need an apartment where I have a kitchen so that I can store fresh food and eat a sensible diet to improve my health." Or "I'll be more successful studying if I live alone because my health problems make me highly sensitive to other people's noise" or "I need an apartment with only one roommate to keep me from being too isolated with out wearing me out navigating too many personalities." These are made-up examples, not what I am assuming you need.
Also think hard about where you can compromise. You say you want an apartment on your street and can't get used to a new neighbourhood, but that must limit your options in ways that aren't viable. Would you be willing to move into a less expensive place if your dad would help you fix it up? Are you willing to move to a new neighbourhood if you can get a nice place to live for a better rate of rent?
You write that you've been reading articles about apartments. Could you write a brief summary of what you've learned about the difficulties renters face and what the articles recommend renters do to find somewhere to live? Provide him copies of the articles or links to where you found them if they're on line. Your dad is a scientist. He might respond to research supported by sources and to knowing that you are doing as much as you can to find a new, safe place to live. The articles might also provide him with evidence that rental prices are more expensive than he thinks they are.
And even if your father doesn't come up with what you need, if you thank him for his help and tell him you really appreciate his time and effort on your behalf and for his continuing to support you, you're more likely to get him to keep helping you. It's basic Pavlovian behavioural conditioning with positive reinforcement. 😉
On july 7th or 4th i think. Maybe it's better to find. Idk. The bathroom smells like hell. I got a panic attack and ran around the neighborhood qt midnight and now trying to cook breakfast at midnight without fainting once the adrenaline rush is off. Im dying
I am so sorry to hear this. smells get me aweful...it is neurological and physcial.polyps in nose and im sorry but..i hope men listen to clean up after themselves. i have fans,air filters, do not use scented...baking soda and vinigar are friends. I also know of others that hold high jobs etc that are sensitive. best wishes,
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