Guilt is a useless feeling

[ElephantsHear]

my nephew is dying- he’s 37. He’s been hanging on for a week. I’m several states away. In June he looked awful, but he couldn’t afford healthcare and work. I told him I would help him. I was hospitalized while there. I had a stomach bleed. I was so anemic and without energy that I forgot when I got home To follow up. Few months later he’s diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. He’s fearful of dying and is hanging on (well his body is). Guilt is useless and logically I know this, but it still sucks and upsets me. I don’t believe in heaven. I think we die- period. No pain/ no consciousness. I wish I believed in heaven, but I don’t.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Welcome to this site.

[ElephantsHear in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

thank you. I appreciate your words.

[kenster1]

sorry to hear about your nephew that`s real sad I`m a believer in something that`s about all I have not sure if it`s heaven mind you.

[Starrlight]

❤️

[Daily2liv]

I'm so sorry for your pain.

[Sawdust23]

I’m sorry to hear that your nephew is struggling with cancer. And that you are hurting for him. Pain is difficult to bear and I wish you all the best. Thoughts and prayers out to you both. I do believe in a Higher Power, and it comforts me in times of difficulty. Hoping you’re able to find peace in this very demanding time

[catsrock]

I'm so sorry - this sounds incredibly difficult.

[Horsesarebeautiful]

I lost my 37 year old nephew a few years ago. Complications from lifelong diabetes. He was my baby boy before I had my daughter. My mother was an instigator of trouble between family members so my nephew and I had not seen each other in a while before he died. His sister had told people no one could see him in the hospital except for her and his mom. Found out later that was a lie. I have endless guilt. I do believe in Heaven. I'm counting on it being there after this journey on earth. I will play baseball with him when I see him again... he was SO good at it. And we will horseback ride..my passion. Sending good thoughts your way. Don't beat yourself up. We do have our own problems in life to contend with. Life gets in the way and goes so fast. There will always be something we could not possibly do for someone.

[ElephantsHear in reply to Horsesarebeautiful]

thank you for your response. it really spoke to my heart. He passed 2 days ago, day he died his sister brought him outside to feel the sun on his face and a bird flew nearby. When they brought him inside, his sister opened a window in his hospice room and a bird flew by as he took his last breath. I believe in God (I can feel His presence) so I was grateful for the sign. Thank you for your words.

[Horsesarebeautiful in reply to ElephantsHear]

What a beautiful experience in the middle of something so sad!! The bird is definitely a sign from God. I am so sorry he is gone. Both our nephews went way too young. I had some strange happenings that have stopped now. I used to have this irritating bee fly around me by my car in the driveway. As soon as I got out of my car it would fly up. It didn't try to get in the car. It would just follow me. One day I was driving on IH 35 on the way to Austin to see my daughter. Traffic is always a nightmare, too many 18 wheelers on the road. Traffic had slowed some. I was driving about 20 mph. A bee appeared outside my driver side window and flew alongside the car for a couple minutes. On the highway. I've never had anything fly right outside my window on the highway, or even fly up if traffic was stopped. I miss that little bee. 🐝 I pray we both find lasting peace. That's wonderful you feel God's presence and His peace. I felt it strongly while my mom was dying. I wish I could feel it every second of every day. To be wrapped in that warm, loving bubble all the time...

[ElephantsHear]

I agree.