Feeling lost lately

[Penni333]

I don’t know where my head is. I cannot sleep. Constant headaches. My boyfriend says all I do is complain. He wants to leave me and move out. I understand where he’s coming from. Sometimes I don’t want to be around me either. I try to make everyone happy around me and I just always screw things up. I feel like o try so hard. He’s my world and I feel like it’s crashing around me. I don’t know what to do.

[hypercat54]

Hi stop worrying about everyone else and make yourself happy instead. Don't forget the happier you are then the happier those who love you are too. This isn't selfish but self interest and there is a big difference. You need to attend to your own needs first before you can concentrate on others. x

[Penni333 in reply to hypercat54]

I know. I understand but making them happy makes me happy. I just feel like I screw everything up. Mostly when I speak. I feel like I try so hard. I somehow say the wrong thing or am too honest or my tone. Idk.

I am trying to focus on me. Just having a bad day/week I guess. It’s hard tho. Thank you for your input. x

[hypercat54 in reply to Penni333]

Yes I know that feeling. Sometimes whatever we say and do things go wrong somehow even with the best intentions in the world. I find too that getting to close to 'flakey' people can sometimes backfire which is when I keep my distance more. x

[Penni333 in reply to hypercat54]

Yup. Just seems to happen too often with me. I screw everything up it seems. I hear ya about the “flakes”. I try too.

[hypercat54 in reply to Penni333]

Sometimes people just want to vent or complain and they don't want support either. x

[Hidden]

i do the same thing sometimes trying to keep everyone happy ( failing a lot of times, which just brings me down more) and not focusing enough on my own problems.. that’s probably what its time to do, take a step back and look at what things you would like to do for yourself, things that make you smile and what things you think you should work on. it might be difficult at first but once you start working on your own happiness then it will get easier

[Hidden]

Sorry that you’re having headaches and not sleeping.

[HopeWithSmile]

Our love to make others happy stems from our own emptiness and need in same love. It is a mirror effect. We all care for people, we share their pain and want them to feel better.

But sometimes it is us who need this kind of treatment. We need love and support.

Please, talk to him, make him understand, because love is not a one-way street. Sometimes he needs to support and understand you more, because it is what you need.

I hope this helps and you will feel better soon!

We are here for you!

xx