First Post - I have anxiety and depression coupled with numerous traumas... And I'm a bad friend.

[AnxiousMess23]

I've recently become aware that although I try sincerely hard to maintain friendships, I really can't keep them alive. I have lost another friend recently. I'm not even sure why although I'm sure it has something to do with me not being there enough. I see her at my kids' school events (we met because our daughters are friends) and she's avoided eye contact. Last night my husband confirmed that she has in fact been avoiding contact with myself and my husband. Sometimes I think people are mad at me when really they aren't so I try very hard not to believe myself unless someone else confirms my fears. Well last night, that happened. And I went into a full-fledged panic attack. After looking for support groups near my home, I have come to the realization that none exist outside of a church... So here I am...

How do you keep friendships alive with families and crippling depression & anxiety??

[012703060610]

Hi there. I am glad you posted. I have GAD, depression and PTSD along with physical health issues that leave me home often. I am in a new part of the country raising three little kiddos too. It has been very hard for me to make friends due to my physical illness (I have compromised immune system). I have watched some parents want to support to others that think I am just lying about my illness. My family doesn't believe in mental health issues. For me, I know that is why I don't hear from them or they don't seem to care. It is all devasting when these happen. I have lost most of my friends due to losing my job due to health and then moving across the country. Right now, I know that I am a bad friend for sure. I think you may be a little hard on yourself. I am not as responsive as I could be when people check in. I guess I'm maybe just tired of my own self! If you can keep trying to reach out and connect, I think it makes it ok. You don't have to be super active, but check in with folks. I don't think any of us really know who is in our corner and times and friends from the past have stepped up. I am just not able to play fake with my family. This post is reminding me to check in with my favorite people who care for me unconditionally!

[Marysblue]

Welcome!

I have the same problem. Most people don't understand depression. I make new friends and then isolate, dont reach out and lose them. Or they just don't want to be friends with someone with depression. Which I can understand.

I've looked for a support group in my town and none.

I just keep trying to make new friends.