I'm having really bad Anxiety

[Queen3]

Hi there,

I'm new here but I wanted to give this a try in hopes that it will help. I've been having really bad anxiety. I overthink everything and I start to panic. A good example would be when my boyfriend wants to hang out with his group of friends, a totally normal thing, I become worried and annoyed and start to jump very irrational conclusions. I really can't get out of my head. Does anyone have anything I can do?

[Helperneedshelp]

I go through this feeling and have only recently have found a “solution”. I call it a rant friend. Find your friend, one preferably that is very trust worthy or even doesn’t know your significant other, and just rant about the situation and why you’re anxious or why you’re mad. I’ve found that as soon as I get it out of my system verbally I’m not longer frustrated with my boyfriend. If a friend is not a viable option for you another way you could approach this is writing your thoughts out, tearing out the piece of paper and recycling it. This symbolizes that the thoughts have no place in your mind and you’re mentally and physically throwing them out.

[Queen3 in reply to Helperneedshelp]

Thank you so much for this! I am going to try your writing it out the system because I think seeing the words I write being thrown away will help me to see that it isn't real. It's just hard though, to be able to think there is a solution and then I think I'm doing better and then all of a sudden, I'm dying on the inside again.

[Itsme21]

I go through this exact same thing. I can’t come to a conclusion on why this occurs. But when I start feeling this way when he brings up hanging out with his friends, I just remind myself that there’s nothing wrong with this. Not to jump to conclusions and assume the worst. As hard as this may be to remind yourself of it, you may also need to remind yourself that everyone has their own thing they struggle with and that it’s okay you feel this way. The main thing is, to really try and understand what it could be that’s making you feel this way. I don’t know if any of this has helped, but sometimes just knowing you’re not alone in the way you feel helps

[Queen3 in reply to Itsme21]

This has literally helped so much. I have been looking for someone who can at least somewhat relate to what I'm saying because I feel crazy. Thank you for your words, I'm going to keep telling myself that it's not what I think and try not to assume the worst even though its super difficult haha.

[Itsme21 in reply to Queen3]

I’m really glad I could help. Any struggle is hard to overcome but when it comes down to it, you just have to find a way to get through it. And remind yourself in the process, you aren’t crazy! Haha

[melantha in reply to Queen3]

I’m definitely guilty of overthinking things and always thinking the worst as well. You’ll find a lot of people on here like that. It’s really nice to know we’re not crazy and definitely not alone in this I’m new here too and am definitely glad I found this place. If you need a place to rant about something, there’s always someone here who’s willing to listen

[Queen3 in reply to melantha]

Thank you! I'm glad to hear that because I can really have those days when I feel like everything is going wrong and just need someone to rant to that isn't one of my friends!

[Ann10]

I agree with the other poster that writing your feelings out is a good idea. One way is to use your creativity and find a hobby that distracts you from your thoughts. I like crafts and am always working on a project. Some people draw, paint or write music.

[Queen3 in reply to Ann10]

Thank you! These are great tips. It’s just hard cause sometimes I feel so tired and like I can’t move or do anything.

[Ann10 in reply to Queen3]

Set a short-term goal for yourself you know you can accomplish. You won't get overwhelmed if you break projects into small pieces. Take one day at a time.