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Anyone tried cuddling?

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Hi, im relatively new here, just a brief intro, 52 male, artist and small business owner. Long time anxiety sufferer, been through the gauntlet countless times. Im in therapy, on meds, have support group the whole nine but have been having struggling more lately

Separate from all that is that im not interested in a serious relationship right now. I feel like im so busy with projects and stuff and thankfully, i have enough people and support in my life. I feel like im not even interested in dating because i wouldnt want to get too attached or vice versa. So i have people to talk to but not much physical contact. So ive been thinking about hiring a cuddler, a woman you pay to cuddle and have touch and physical contact. Theres a few websites ive checked out, im not sure what to think, some of the women may be offering more than cuddling im not sure, im not saying that would be a bad thing either. I just dont know what id be getting into so to speak. Has anyone tried this or looked into it for themselves? What do people think of the idea?

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get a cat or dog🙄i dont miss cuddles i have lots off my cat 🐆

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minimalnomad in reply to

Good advice. The more I learn about people. The more I like furry friends... you can not go wrong with a puppy... lots of love to receive.

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Artistfriend in reply to

Im not allowed to have pets where i live plus its just more responsibility, i am a cat person though

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fauxartist in reply to Artistfriend

Look, this is not that unusual in Japan or other countries that have professionals to fill roles for people who don't want or have time for attachment. I think more prudish mentalities would find this a bit strange or they may be even a bit judgmental about welcoming even more than a 'cuddle' from such a service. But personally... many people with attachment issues, or work is their life priority, find these types of service fill those needs for them. Being in a relationship requires work, give and take, and a lot of time, many working professionals don't have that kind of time... so they opt out for temporary services. If you are not seeking a sexual encounter necessarily, of which many escort services would provide, then I think you should focus on the companion services, with the emphasis that you want to hug. Best of luck and I hope you find what you need, and it works out for you.

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Artistfriend in reply to fauxartist

Thanks, i appreciate the encouragement! That is how i feel about my time and energy, its already tied up with other people and work, i cant imagine adding to that right now but im human too so some limted physical contact would be helpful

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Roxylox

I think it's a good idea if you feel you need it. I saw a woman wbo offers this service speaking on a chat show. She seemed very caring

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Artistfriend in reply to Roxylox

Thanks, Yep some of them are therapists and trained, they really do provide a service and it isnt cheap. Im going to keep looking into for myself probably

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AXXES2

wish i had someone to cuddle :)

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minimalnomad in reply to AXXES2

Try to get a pet for a while. They make you feel better.

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AXXES2 in reply to minimalnomad

lol,i dont like hugging pets i pet them or play with them but i wont sit or lay on the couch and like cuddle a pet to be honest

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minimalnomad in reply to AXXES2

I can understand that.

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Artistfriend in reply to AXXES2

Exactly

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Sillysausage234

I was intrigued and in need of a cuddle also so googled them sites .maybe not arrived in the uk yet but found an interesting article along the way you might think so too ….link further down the thread 👇

in reply to Sillysausage234

thats very intetesting i found a site but they sent me this 🙄😁😂

🙄
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Sillysausage234 in reply to

is it cuddly

in reply to Sillysausage234

unfortunately i never got chance to try it pixiebob jumped on it and burst it 😺🙄😂

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MadBunny in reply to

Scary !!!

in reply to MadBunny

thats a balloon made of ss actually.😂

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🤣🤣

in reply to MadBunny

i think they were been over generous tho on some of his image well from what ive heard 🤔😂😂😂🧐🤫

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Dolphin14 in reply to

Where do you get such information? Has he made the tabloids :)

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Artistfriend in reply to

Is that the Chinese spy balloon? 😀

in reply to Artistfriend

haha 😂😂

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MadBunny in reply to Artistfriend

🤣🤣

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AXXES2 in reply to

sorry i laughed i thought those dolls were banned years ago

in reply to AXXES2

its not a real doll its a screenshot 😂i have a cat 🐆

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AXXES2 in reply to

oohh lol i feel dumb maybe i should slow down on reading some of these posts its ok as long as i made someone laugh

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Sillysausage234

businessinsider.com/meet-th...

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Isinatra in reply to Sillysausage234

Thanks for the link. I found a great cure for toenail fungus. Not for me cuz I don’t have that. It’s for my sister.

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Isinatra

Tell her to try drinking apple cider vinegar and to wash her feet more often…,hope this helps

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Isinatra in reply to Sillysausage234

I’ll pass it along to her. She never takes her sneakers off so I’ll tell her to double up on the vinegar.

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Isinatra

give her a cuddle and buy her some sandals maybe best

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Isinatra in reply to Sillysausage234

She’s in Texas so I’ll do my best. She could cut holes in her sneakers. There’s a way around everything. 👍🏼

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Isinatra

there’s always a solution I’m thinking rattlesnakes might be a problem so maybe get her some cowboy boots and just pour some vinegar in them

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Isinatra in reply to Sillysausage234

😂😂

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hypercat54 in reply to Isinatra

One of my sisters was in hospital last year. They didn't notice she had fungus on a foot. When she told them they immediately moved her into a private room as it could be contagious. You couldn't make it up could you.

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Isinatra in reply to hypercat54

Contagious? 😳That’s a first. Lol

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MadBunny in reply to Sillysausage234

youtu.be/8IG8dw5qwXQ

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Sillysausage234 in reply to MadBunny

😄 don’t remember that one I must go back over them ….thanks

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MadBunny in reply to Sillysausage234

It's hilarious.I thought of it straight away when you posted the link 😁

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hypercat54 in reply to Sillysausage234

They are a bunch of the saddest men I have ever seen! A male fantasy - a woman who is passive and obedient and lets them do exactly what they want. Yuck!

I heard of a chap who bought one, used it, then took it back saying they sold him a male one instead. They looked at it and told him he had it inside out....... Lol

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Sillysausage234 in reply to hypercat54

definitely passive and obedient…Mike from texas must be pimping them out to his mates he’s got 8

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Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54

Hyper

I never know when you are just point blank pulling my leg, hahaha. Is this for real??

❤️🐬

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Isinatra in reply to hypercat54

😂

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Artistfriend in reply to Sillysausage234

Thanks, ive seen that article actually :) So many choices

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Artistfriend

got great reviews Gordon bought himself 2 he looks as happy as a pig in sh*t

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Lazy_dog_lover

I had no idea that was even an option. I know that people hire companions. One of my friends immigrated to the US and before she had her teaching license sorted out, she was a companion to a widow lady.

I am also a fan of big dogs that think they are lap dogs. I fostered different dogs over the years and they absolutely gave me cuddles and purpose.

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Artistfriend in reply to Lazy_dog_lover

Its interesting to look at some of the sites. Ive been hesitant so far to try it, my friend thinks they are straight up prostituting themselves but that cant be the case. Some of them are trained therapists and take it totally seriously. Anyone can advertise themselves though

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Artistfriend

nope, not even one

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Artistfriend

I meant some of the cuddlers are actually trained therapists also

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