I like most of you am in a WhatsApp group with the people I went on a group course with over a 10 week period & we all got into this group.
Well it seems that I've come across a duplicitous individual & I want to kick this person into touch, now the others in the group I get on with fine & they're all genuine folk.
So do I leave the group & cut out the negativity out & the others are innocent bystanders who may choose to not wish to contact me after, now usually I wouldn't mind cutting negative people & I happily carry on with knowing my mental health is safe again or do I stay & only talk to those I'm on good standing with ?
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od Good day to you i am ghoust rider i am ina simalar thing i have now joined a gym to help me with my health as i used to work there years ago i feel when i walk in the gym they all run of to do there job i dont feel welcome , apart from mt trainer whom is great i have 6 more lessons & then i have to make my self a member or leave i think i going to find another gym / so matey give it a couple more goes then see how you feell i dont like bad atmosfers at mo i feel 50/50 with them this is whar you got to do all the best ghoust rider
so in your opinion not everyone is worth it not worth helping ? maybe thats the reason why some people are the way they are cause they are not getting love and support maybe thats the reason why they are the way they are because they are shown or told you arent worth it
In my view I don't have time for those who peddle negativity. Everyone is worth helping but some folks will twist things & make out that they've been verbally attacked, when it's only happening in their own mind. Those people can never be helped & I would turf myself out if I went about being negative. I've worked hard on myself & I thank all those people who've helped me but I need to be able to protect myself from negative folk.
Isn't what's app more intimate? Like you can't really ignore anyone so they tend to be in your face whereas here you can blow passed a post. I think there is a major movement to find the platform that is more focused on individual interests. I guess that is what this is. There are a lot more platforms that stream line interests so a lot of different topics to choose. I like this trend. I don't see why being on a "global platform" is necessary. It is toxic. Do what works for you.
Social media can be toxic , in fact is toxic but WhatsApp is more controlled as U say, however individuals will always let their veil slip & that halo was & is fake.
maybe not everyone is strong as you are and the group youre in..would you have liked to be left behind to get kicked out? what kind of help would you hvae wanted if you were in that persons shoes,i think thats the problem with the world someone gets rejected if youre not the same as everyone else but good luck sir.
I say if you get along with the majority of the group, stay. And keep in touch with those you get along with and ignore the person giving you a headache.
No, doctor hasn't responded or even kept in contact. I don't think any doctors here in the US do that. I hope I'm wrong.
But mama has been released from the hospital and is at the rehab center now. How long she will be there? I have no idea. However she is one step closer to being home 😊
I'm glad you are working on a game plan to handle this situation.
A suggestion & a serious question for momma, how would she feel finding a new doctor ? As this one did what they did & thus harming a patient & their own oath is to do no harm. So if momma is happy to choose another doc , put in a complaint about his conduct & attitude to putting momma in the hospital, as I truly believe when he said want 2 weeks he should have given her meds to start again after the 2 weeks.
Enough anger, let's hear about momma & how this rehab centre will do for her & is all she is learning be transferable to the home setting, so when she does get home, U can help her at home.
How is IG doing & is she coping well & her kitty, how is it apart from growing lol.
Has JG called U ? Also tell the brother in law that if she needs to ask about momma she can call U & U only.
Yes it will be difficult to deal with her but U are no longer the person she thinks U are , U are far stronger than ever & U can deal with her & be courteous with her & tell only the things she asks about & if she is being a butt head about things cut her down to text messages only.
Main thing is momma doesn't need anything more added to her stress levels when we need her to only work on getting better so she can come home.
Well momma is definitely considering around doctor. And will file a complaint about his lack of care.
Don't know of the game plan yet. But I suspect it's to help get her legs back and shoulder so she's able to move about more.
IG is doing well. She recently bought herself a used car and is very happy. She wanted a car that has a trailer hitch. So I guess this means she's really serious about coming back home. She got a really good deal on it and car insurance too. She was getting tired of relying on her friend to pick up her and riding buses cause she lives in a tiny village and her doctors at least the specialists are in bigger cities. So now she can go to these places on her own.
JG apparently pretended to be our mom's sister. But all our mom's sisters are dead. She only called that one time I think. Hasn't been heard from again. She doesn't remember my number to call me. So once the idiot lost her iphone (because of no payment) there went my number. She doesn't really care. The way JG sees it. Our mom chose me over her. Mom didn't put me in my place like she was supposed too. And took my side and should have taken her in once the other man threw her out. Isn't like mom didn't want her out on the street. Mom would have moved her back in. Its just she's not medicated, she's bi polar with psychosis tendencies & possible coke prpblem. And like our mom told her she has to deal with her health problems as well. She can't be dealing with the issues she's going to be bringing if she allowed JG to move back in with us.
Yeah mom doesn't need to be dealing with anything else. She just needs to focus on getting better so she can come back home and enjoy her remaining years in peace. I want that for her. I want her around to see IG move back home and to see me get better 🥲
If JG would stop being pig headed and dumb. She can get to enjoy time with mom.
Hi Dodge! I think you should stay. The fact that you like everyone else should matter more than one person. I have a feeling they would miss you. Although, I guess it depends on just how “duplicitous” this person is. Do other ppl in the group share your opinion of this person?
They will see the duplicity in time unfortunately. Having said that I think they will need to see it for themselves & not me swaying them as this person may well be civil with the rest of the group & I hope it was a case of she is anti-men only as I was only man in the group.
oh well yes, that explains it. Sounds like she should join a women’s only forum. And yes, the others will tire of her with time. Sound like she will sink her own ship.👍😀
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