Family problems

[Ella_122]

i don’t know what to do anymore, i feel like im gonna explode any second.I just had a huge fight with my family, it’s mostly all of us fighting with my dad.I feel like he changed in last couole of years and ui just can’t take it anymore.I’m only 21 and I’m stressing so much it’s not normal.I don’t now what to do, how do i calm.I feel like I’m gonna go crazy because of all of this happening.Any help please!!?

[Agora1]

Hi Ella Even the best of families can have their ups and downs with certain

situations/issues that develop over the years. Has your father seen a doctor

more recently? A change in his personality or attitude can also come from a

medical issue. Once he is cleared of anything physical going on, if he would see

a therapist maybe they could address the issue that is causing these changes.

As for yourself Ella, you may not be able to change your father's ways right now

but you can change in how you perceive them. When you feel threatened by

an escalating fight coming on, walk away, find a quiet spot and breathe and meditate.

3-5 minutes alone can help quiet both your mind and body from the stress.

The more you do this, the easier it will get until you are able to stay in the same

room and just breathe the stress away. I hope things turn around for you soon xx

[Ella_122 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for replying!He saw doctor but just normal checkups nothing out of ordinary.I come from a Balkan country so here seeing a therapist has always been seen as something embarrassing or for someone who’s crazy.Its always like this, we all get in a huge argument (my parents, and i have an older brother) and everybody goes their way and tomorrow my dad is acting like didn’t just have a huge fight.Our fighs are mostly finance related, we never had a lot of money and it was always a struggle but we still managed to live a good live and have most if the things we wanted.I really do love my parents and i would do anything for them, but it seems like since we moved to Germany situation got worse for us, even tho we came here for better life.There is a lot more details to the story, it’s a struggle but i have to find a way to get better!🙏🏻